Moving house, are my expectations unfair?

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We're moving house in 2.5 weeks and have a 4 year old. We exchange on Monday. We had already committed to spend next weekend 300miles away with DPs family. We both work full time with the rest of our annual leave being taken the week after we move as the new house is older/bigger needs work etc. So the only time we have left to properly pack/clean/get organised is the weekend before we move and some evenings (some are taken up with birthdays and overnight work trips). I've organised for 4yo to be with her dad that Sunday so we had the day to throw things out etc without her under our feet. This morning it transpires that DP is playing golf that day, one of his friends GFs has organised it as a surprise and admittedly I think we'd both forgotten. AIBU to think something has to give? We can't do his family trip (he hasn't visited since May) and the golf thing... He thinks I'm being ridiculous... I'm feeling very stressed and emotional about the move as it is.

Re-arrange the visit to the ILs. Complete madness to do a weekend trip like that the weekend before you move . ANYONE would understand that, once the moving date was known.

I'd postpone the family visit, as it's much more disruptive and time consuming than a game of golf. Nobody in their right mind would expect you to make a long trip like that the weekend before you move. Explain to them that you didn't know your moving date when you made the arrangements, they really should understand, sometimes plans have to change when a house move is imminent. You can visit when the move is over and done with or invite them to you once you're unpacked and settled. The golf game means you only lose one days packing (not even that really since you can still crack on in your DH's absence and he can join in when he gets back that evening) whereas the family visit means several full days and evenings will be lost.

Moved this year with a 3 year old and a DH who managed to incapacitate himself 3 weeks before we moved. I would advise packers or postponing visit if possible (much less stress), but it is doable.

Do you have your boxes yet? If you do start packing now - decide what you need for the next couple of weeks (the bare minimum) and pack everything else. I aimed for 4-5 boxes a night which I then piled in the corner of the room (or in the spare room)

It always takes longer than you think so I can't emphasise enough how important it is you get as much packed as possible. Even with all my planning I was still throwing things in boxes at 1am the morning we moved. Don't forget garden and loft!