to rant and vent

[Gileswithachainsaw]

That yet again dd tells grandparents she wanted something having already been told no by me and dp and they call up wanting to buy it.

I said no, whether or not they agree or disagree is not up for debate and that it does dd no favours fir her to learn that if mummy says no I can just ask my grandad.....

rant over...

At least they call you first, my nana just bought the stuff and told my mum tough shit, basically - drove my mum nuts!

Or will they phone and phone and phone til they wear you down?

Ah, it's their job isn't it?

Unless she wants a gun or something

at this point I have no idea if it's been bought or not. I'm just mean apparently. ..

Yep my parents do this too...

I actually returned things and refused to take items home. They're a fair bit better now.

Grandparents privilege isn't it? My dad sees fit to pile as many sweets as he can into my dc and then hand them back with full stomachs and high as a kite at dinner time

God love em but grandparents are a blessing and a curse at times

There's grandparents privilege then it happening often enough dp and I take bets on how long it is til the phone rings.....

aaahhhh

Oh dear! I'd be having strong words with them and the kids then!

Oh I did.......

My mum, pil and my dnan do this. I try to tell them but they never listen. They think I'm a right stick in the mud, sigh.

My dad is like this, dd is the only grandchild and my parents are well off and like to spend their money. I didn't mind at first but now we have more teddies than build a bear and there is no sign of it stopping.

When you know the answer, let me know. A couple of years ago my dd told my dad she couldnt go on the bouncy castle at the zoo. The cash machine was broke and i couldnt ly for it on my card! The next week he bought her a bouncy castle for his garden.

YANBU

yy to more teddies than build a bear....

I no longer feel able to mention any Xmas or birthday ideas.

sadly my suggestion (when asked fir ideas) to give money ir vouchers was met with horror

Tell the GPs your DD is not allowed chocolate or gin.

dp has already suggested in start getting dd to mention stuff I wantneed

love them to bits and am grateful they think of the dc however space is tight, this particular item is a waste if time and money and it's not them.that deals with the upset when it falls apart or gets ruined in the wash or doesn't do what it's supposed to do or fit properly et

We are going to try that, "dd tell grandad you don't like mummy looking so scruffy, some one needs to buy her new clothes"....

I think there's a difference between gps spoiling their gc and dc going behind their parents' backs to gps to get their own way.

yy river

my bedroom didn't get decorated til just weeks befire I moved out. I waited years.

however dd has to wait a few days fir me to source something, find a particular version of something that I know would he better or god forbid wait for it to get back onto stock and all of a sudden I'm being mean or she never gets anything. . Ffs met my pay cheque arrive first.

apparently I should have wasted my tip money on this damn thing rather than going out. I go out like twice a yr I had 4 drinks and a meal. that's it

I don't know how old your dd is, but I think you need to start explaining to her as well that this is not on and it puts people in an akward position (obviously won't do much good if she is a toddler, but I hope you get what I mean).

I have explained. however I do think children naturally ask for things and it's up to adults to he adults and not constantly indulge.

I will now be telling dd again that she is not to mention anything to them. if I say no then the reasons are not up for discussion and no is the end of it.

Wish my kids had grandparents to spoil them. They have lost both Grandma's suddenly in the past few years and the Grandad's don't really give them anything except £20 at Christmas.

No, yanbu. But you need to nip this bloody firmly in the bud. Absolutely make it plain that whinging to anybody else is wrong and will
lead to sanctions (it coming up in conversation naturally is different). And to wait and be grateful. Playing grandparents off against the parents, for whatever reason, is unacceptable. Horrible behaviour. Also make clear to the grandparents that enabling this behaviour is not acceptable and will not work.
Asking for vouchers is naff, though. Abd pretty selfish. Ffs let them buy presents and be grateful they care enough to, for birthdays or Christmas let them buy a present your child actually wants.

you'd ask fir vouchers too if you were constantly given large gifts that can't be used on their own/require accessories or whatever and take up space we don't have.
or difficult to replace when they break as the stock was limited.
I realise this sounds ungrateful and believe me we smile and say thank you and the kids do like the presents however we physically cannot house any more stuff. these days presents usually take the form.of topping up already large collections of something. or is bigger than we have room to store or is something that would say need classes or books on how to use properly except we can't afford these classes.

Dd is already grounded fir the next few days as a result of trying it on.