To ask for present back

[Dollymixtureyumyum]

Ok I won't but I bloody well feel like it.
SIL is 34 and her birthday is 4 days before DH who is two years younger.
We both now have a DS so we suggested to her two years ago to stop buying for adult birthdays and just buy for the kids. Cue major strop from SIL. She constantly acts like a petulant child so we let it go for my inlaws sake (they bore the brunt of her tantrums).
It was her birthday 4 days ago and we got her nice watch and a box of chocolates. DHs birthday yesterday and she got him a card and announces she can not longer afford to buy birthday presents and it is now just the kids!!!
AIBU to think cheeky mare for
A-having a major strop when we suggested it before
B- Waiting till DHs birthday after we had got her a nice present to let us know she was no longer doing presents.

How about saying to her you are mortified to have bought her a gift when clearly she had accepted your previous proposal to stop buying adults gifts.

Tell her she must have felt so uncomfortable accepting a gift under such circumstances and you would not be offended in the least should she wish to return it, in fact you would prefer it if she did.

If she keeps going I would do no presents apart from immediate family.

Biatch.

Is she the mum of the 9-year-old on that other thread who goes rummaging in other peoples' larders, helping herself to whatever she sees and leaving the empty wrappers on the floor?

Honestly, just no more gifts. And no announcements, you already made one.

What is with adults who expect all kinds of presents for their birthday?

I'd be pleased. You've both got what you wanted. She got her present and you got to change the arrangement for future presents. Result

Many years go I told everyone over the age of 21 that they weren't to expect anymore presents and i didn't want any in return either.

They have been nothing but trouble before, but since then all, well rather peaceful:-)

awful behaviour

Tell her you've got her a wonderful expensive Christmas present. Wait until she's given you yours, then explain you forgot you weren't getting her anything any more, thank her for the present, and say how it goes part way towards making up for her cheek with accepting the watch.

watch out for a reversal at christmas i knew someone who did this then bought gifts for christmas for them when she found out she had no gift in return she swept up her gifts threw a tantrum and left

I hope you don't buy for adults at Christmas.

In all honesty in our family we buy only for dc and parents / grandma. Siblings all have children so we just buy for them.