to wonder why some people get so worked up over such trivial things?

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Or even things that don't affect them?

I wonder if because my life is so stressful that I just don't have the energy to get annoyed by the little things any more or if I'm just bellowing out as I get older.

But find it bewildering that some people get so invested in the lives of extended family or friends when the decisions they make don't even affect them? Or they are screaming blue murder because their dc aren't at mensa level by year 4. Or because someone in waitrose looked at them funny and its ruined their day.

Do people really go through life so cross all the time? Do you have such stress free lives that you need something to get worked up about?

I do think some people thrive on never ending drama.

I think that perhaps the Internet lets people vent about things that they would normally let go. AIBU often seems full of people getting upset about trivialities that maybe would be quickly forgotten if they didn't have a place to air them.

I went back to bed at 7.30 hmc, managed to get a couple of hours in, still exhausted though! But better than nothing.

I shall read those links later senpai, I've got cakes to decorate and children to be ferried about and I'm only sat down for coffee for a short time and I'd get engrossed reading.

God, I'm so glad it's not just me who gets annoyed with things that don't work as they should. It's so frustrating as I'm not technical at all so find it difficult to fix things. I end up in a snotty heap.

I think that sometimes getting worked up over trivial things is just a manifestation of bigger stresses that you can't deal with. Also modern life tells people they should be leading perfect lives and then when it inevitably turns out not to be perfect you get stressed over minor issues. The internet doesn't help. I think sometimes people posting responses on AIBU can be a bit harsh. Most people have a off day when they just want to rant and rave. The next day they've calmed down. I think the responses on AIBU can be a bit uncalled for.

its about expectations and resilience, if you are the sort of person who just expects that everything in life is going to be the best with the best possible outcome then you are easily disappointed when something minor happens and over time become less resilient. If you always look for the worst possible outcome then you are less surprised when things go badly so over time your acceptance / resilience for these things gets stronger and you cope better.

It is far healthier to look at what the best that could happen is and what the worst is and then look at what is the most likely thing to happen and go with that.

so you get your shopping delivered... worst scenario bread is squashed half the items are missing and the subs are rotten. No surprise if you were expecting this, just a 'meh life can be shit sometimes' you have developed the resilience to deal with it, but a total headfuck if you were expecting best scenario leading to outrage and major disappointment as it was totally not expected.

best scenario, bread is fresh fluffy and unsquashed, no subs at all and an un asked for bottle of wine appears randomly in your order and the store says 'never mind, you keep it' Yay life can be good sometimes especially euphoric if you were expecting the worst, totally accepted as normal if you were expecting this as the best, no resilience required or indeed learnt.

Most likely scenario, everything is there except for a couple that have been subbed adequately, bread is a bit squashed at one end but fluffs up with a quick squeeze, you survive with no trauma and life goes on as usual, because you have considered what the worst could be and the best and the actual outcome was fine no major disappointment and no euphoric moment either, your resilience for dealing with minor issues has been built and used in this scenario.

The news is full of stories of extremes of this people with great resilience who suffer major setbacks in life but go on to use that experience to do something strong, refusing to be seen as a 'victim' and also full of people with no resilience who totally melt down at the slightest thing.

EcclesCakes No surprise if you were expecting this, just a 'meh life can be shit sometimes' you have developed the resilience to deal with it

But surely then you have to sort out their mistakes? What if you're missing a vital ingredient for dinner? Go to the shop yourself? And presumably there's a reason you get home delivery so going to the shop may be impossible/incredibly difficult?

This is why I get wound up over small things - it's not the thing itself but the knock on effect that makes everything else overwhelming. I'm barely holding it together most of the time though... I think there might be a lot of that about.

Also imagining the worst case scenario in advance would mean living a very limited life just to make sure there's time for everything if it goes wrong.

Mind you I don't understand drama over other things - eg. the unknown unrelated person dying as mentioned upthread. (What happens if I mention how astounded I was as the general public in 1997...? Have a feeling that is a no-no!)

Just to add, I have been through 'big' experiences as well and just sort of got on with it in a practical way at the time... but because I hadn't actually dealt with the emotions or had anyone I could turn to the trauma caused me to breakdown years later and I've still not recovered. Sorry if that means I see myself as a 'victim', but I tried to block it out and it didn't work.

I think that sometimes the trivial thing that people are getting worked up over is like the straw that breaks the camel's back.

It's a trivial thing to go wrong, but if there's been a whole day of trivial things going wrong, or if there's one big thing simmering away in the background, then that trivial thing can just push people over the edge into temporary rage and unreasonableness.

I'm inclined to agree with the OP. I'm actually quite surprised at the odd few posters who feel the need to start several threads a day over the most mundane things.

The ones that I find oddest are the ones that start 'I don't understand why.......'
I don't understand a lot of things such as why anyone wants to watch rugby, get a tattoo - but I accept that they do. They are perfectly free to do so without me having to understand it!