To want to lock him in the kitchen?

[Fruu]

I have a stonking cold. Partner took to bed with it earlier this week (before I got ill) while I stayed up with the baby in the evening.

He had a works event today and went out "for a couple of drinks" after. Agreed beforehand that he'd be back fairly early and not drink enough to be drunk so that he could help out with the baby when he gets home and so that he can drive tomorrow.

In his own words he's "wasted" and has now missed the penultimate train home despite having a list of the train times and phoning at 9pm to say he'd be back soon. He's not going to get back now until about 1am at the earliest.

AIBU in desperately wanting to chuck a sleeping bag into the kitchen and bolt the door up to the rest of the flat? (Wouldn't actually do it, just a passive agressive fantasy!) I feel awful and will now have to stay up with my defiantly nocturnal baby as partner is clearly too drunk to be left in charge of a child, gah.

Eugh, my DH seems to do this every time he has a (tbf rare) social event after being ill. Like they're treating themselves for getting over being ill by making themselves feel worse with a bloody hangover.

Looks like you're up tonight :(, but make sure you get some rest tomorrow. No sympathy for the hangover! Don't worry about punishing him tonight, his liver and your DC can really punish him tomorrow.

Oh dear, this reminds me of many moons ago when me and DH were younger and he came back home drunk at 3am, I was pregnant with DS2 and had baby DS1. He literally feel through the door and collapsed on the floor he was that drunk, so I pulled his trousers down and his shirt up so that he would wake up cold. Very childish I know we were 19 years old at the time but I convinced him the next day that he must have come in like that, he never did it again. We are still together 25 years later so no damage done.
Therefore Yanbu in principle

Can he stay out - at a friends maybe? You don't need him waking you and the baby at 1am, or being a waste of space tomorrow.

He can pay you back Sat night and Sunday by giving you 24 hrs off.

Ha, like a "congratulations on handling that, body? Let's see if you can manage this next challenge?" :)

Alas, he's such a lightweight that he probably won't have given himself a noticeable hangover, he'll just be useless this evening! I'll keep my fingers crossed that he's given himself a headache and the baby practices his impressively loud growling and screaching noises again tomorrow. ;)

Quietlifenotonyournelly, that's pretty amusing! :) Obviously worthwhile as he didn't repeat it!

TigerFeat, 24 hours off would be amazing, but am still breastfeeding so not really doable. Maybe I can wrangle something else out of him like a steady supply of chicken soup and cups of tea while I bury myself in duvets and watch musicals...

He was just really the next day, I have since told him what I did that night though. It was one of those spur of the moment things as I was sleep deprived at the time and cross and I just went back to bed straight after