Oh I am such a bitch, but my DH had such a different upbringing to me. He and his sister (late thirties now) are so reliant on their parents while I lost my dad early, and neither parent was particularly "parental", ie. alcoholics, more reliant on me etc. I am quite independent as a result I think...
I've been married for 5 years and we have a DD, and generally we're so happy. But the in laws, and SIL who still lives with them, come over a few times a month, and his dad who is in his 60s does jobs around the house. I am grateful for this (honest!) but I feel like we should be doing things ourselves more (my DH has an inferiority complex and thinks he can't, possibly because of criticism from FIL? and also is probably lazy and it's easier to let FIL do it) It feels like every time anything happens in the house/ with car etc he just calls Dad. AIBU to think that this is... I don't know... bad? Or is it just weird to me because I haven't been reliant on my parents since I was, err... very young...
I just think that if something breaks, we either fix it ourselves or work out how... do we always have to go running to the in laws? I have lived on my own a lot before and I survived...
Also, we're getting away for a few days over half term, and he's just informed me that his family will be staying in the house to get a few things sorted and jobs done (there is nothing major needing doing...) and it just makes me so uncomfortable!!
AIBU? I don't feel I can talk to anyone about this.