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Was this a comment on my appearance? Or just a nice gesture?

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MaryPoppinsPenguins · 16/10/2015 14:48

Just before I start, this isn't a thread to bash my mum, we have a great relationship and I love her to bits.

She's been ill so I've seen her more than usual lately, and she's popped by or vice versa after the school run etc.

When I was working, I would straighten my hair and put makeup on everyday, now I'm a SAHM, I don't. I usually just put my hair up in a clip and wash my face and go out like that, on the school run and to baby groups etc with my youngest. By the time I've got in, tidied up, given DD2 lunch, put her down for a nap half the days gone and it's nearly time for the school run again so I stay looking like I look and generally am makeup free (and maybe a bit scruffy?!) unless I'm going out for an evening or meeting friends or something.

I'm 32, and actually, I think I look okay without makeup, not great, but not horrific either. (Or so I thought!)

My mum called me earlier and said 'listen, your birthday is coming up so I was thinking, let's go out and get someone to do your makeup properly, then we can buy all the bits they used and it can be your present? And you could get your highlights done if you like?'

Now, obviously I was like 'you don't have to do that!' But she was quite insistent... So I agreed and said it sounded nice.

But now I'm thinking, do I really look that much of a mess my mother has to intervene? Confused

Is it not acceptable to go on the school run in a 'naice' area with a bare face?

Or am I overthinking this and it's just a nice gesture?

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annatha · 16/10/2015 21:21

I can see where you're coming from if you've gone from being "done" every day to going make up less most of the time, but it sounds like she just wants to get you a thoughtful gift and remind you of things you used to enjoy before having kids. Since becoming a sahm myself I've stopped bothering with hair and makeup and would love to go and get pampered and treat myself to some new makeup but I can't justify spending on it, so perhaps she thinks it's a treat that you wouldn't justify paying for yourself.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 16/10/2015 23:40

Thanks everyone, I was feeling a bit fragile about looking like a total mess! But my mum is amazing and I'm sure it's meant with kindness, I was just worried it might be a bit of an intervention at the same time Wink

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