I'm organising my dds birthday party which will be in 3 weeks . The dds birthdays are only 2 days apart but there is a 3 year gap - it's a joint party for various reasons .
Both girls will have school and nursery friends at the party . None of my family will be attending as there are no young DC on my side. I do have a nephew who is 11 and will not be interested in a 6 year olds party so I haven't invited him .
DH has a brother who has 2 boys a similar age to our own DC. They live around a ten minute drive away , but we rarely see them for various reasons.
DH has fortnightly contact with his brother , but does not see his nephews . He texts his brother regularly .
DH has decided that we should invite his nephews to our dds party . I don't think we should .
Firstly , DH brother and his partner have made it clear they don't like me . We have had issues in the past and she has been vile toward me . I try to be polite but she tends to ignore me if she sees me.
Secondly , we don't know the nephews and they don't know our dds (sad but true). Our dds will be too preoccupied with their school friends to notice the nephews are at the party.
Thirdly , they have form for making things about "them" . I feel their presence will cause an atmosphere and put a dampener on my dds party .
DH agrees with all this but feels like we have to invite them because they are family and they live close by .
I'm very much in the camp of I only make an effort with people who I know would do the same for me. Having dealt with his family in the past, I no longer have time for them.
AIBU? I need to get a move on as the invites are going out tomorrow !