what would you feel like

[HaxanCloak]

can I ask what you would feel like if...

someone recently added you to a text messaging type group called 'family' to which all their children and spouses were added but then you noticed that the group was started five months previously without you as a member?

Just wanting to see if I am being precious in feeling a bit miffed

*so not to drip feed there have been issues (unresolved) with the person who started the group but we rub along ok if we see eachother.

Why are you miffed when you acknowledged there are unresolved issues? Maybe they were discussing something that didn't involve you.

Would depend upon what relation I was to that person and what the unresolved issues were tbh

oh, well...because I am not sure why they have added me. I am fine with not being a member really. I don't think it was being used to discuss me, I am not that paranoid. I am family though so I am a bit ... annoyed isn't the right word... a bit confused about why I have been added now and what my reaction should be.

Is this person 'letting me in'? Does this mean I am only now considered as family? Am I supposed to be getting some kind of message from this?

My day to day life is and has been slightly improved without being aware of the person's social media stuff so now I feel a bit like I am daily bombarded with messages about their life and it's quite hard for me to leave the group without it causing an issue.

I am married to one of their children, it's awkward.

So is it mil or fil?

Maybe she never thought of adding you before? Just slipped her mind. If it's on what's app you don't have to accept the request as far as I am aware. If you didn't want to be part of it, you should have just declined.

I made a family group so we could share pictures freely. But I never got around to adding anyone for a few months.

It is Whatsapp and it just added me automatically - nothing came up saying I need to accept and now I am getting several messages a day. No one else has been added now - everyone else was added at some other date but I don't know when so maybe it was started earlier in teh year but had no members until now.

I suppose I am just being precious about it then.

no worries.

If it's whatsap it's pretty casual how you choose group name. I have one called family with only half the family on it as I needed to message just those people about something and it was the best way to describe them at the time.

Sometimes on what's app you can see prior messages to you being added. Can you scroll back?

No - I can only see back to the point where I was added.

found some info here

1. When you invite someone to a group, will they be able to read previous messages? No. When entering a group, a person can only read messages sent from that time. They don't have access to the history.

To be honest I am not that bothered about what may or may not have been talked about before I was in the group - I just generally feel like I am not really considered family and this has just made that more obvious.

We did this when we went to Asia, made a group, called 'family' to discuss some stuff. Came back , New issues arose, added some other people as the things being discussed now concerned them.