Wibu to just not bother having my mum at my wedding?
Dp and I are getting married in two weeks. We made the decision to have a tiny wedding, no frills, he's having his mum and dad there and I said I'd have my mum. There's no flowers, cake, reception or anything like that.
I told my mum and she agreed that she'd come.
I should say that there are a few family issues, my mum has been an ok mum on the whole but my dad treated us all terribly and she stood by and still does. As I was growing up she never did any normal mum daughter things like take me shopping or buy me my first bra or anything like that. My dad utterly resented any time I spent with my mum. They never worked or did anything properly and it was all just crap.
Fast forward to now mum and dad still have dreadful problems but I don't get involved. My mum never, ever rings me, she never visits, if I ask her to pop in for a cup of tea she says she's busy, every time I ring her she says she'll have to go as she's busy and how she got up at 10am and had to have a shower, make a cup of tea, walk the dog, and do her sewing so she is just soooo busy.
Anyway I told her that we're planning to get married and that it would be a bit of lunch beforehand, she agreed although said that she wouldn't be keen on the lunch but would try it.
I also asked if she would like to come to town today to get something to wear, I say this as I know she lives in one or two tops which is fine but she said she'd want something new, I also offered to buy her something, she agreed to this but couldn't speak at the time as she was 'busy', but agreed to ring me in the week to arrange it.
I've heard nothing from her. It's nearly impossible to contact her as her mobile phone doesn't work in her house and she never answers the landline.
I feel like just saying forget the whole thing.
She will probably ring me the night before or even the day after to ask if it's still happening.
She's not a horrible person, she never says a bad word to me but she just acts as though I don't exist.