AIBU about Delivery Driver and nails?

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My shopping has just come, yay home delivery!
Anyway, the guy held the baskets and I took the shopping out and piled it in the middle room ready to put it away. As I was doing so I noticed the man notice my finger nails, I like to keep my nails tidy, shaped and often coloured. He seems to look at them a bit much and as I sign the gun thing he says,
"Nice nails mate" in a sort of semi snigger type thing.

AIBU to think that if I was a woman he wouldn't have mentioned them so why did he? Or am I just being sensitive and that if I do something typically feminine then people will react.

(I hasten to add that this isn't the first time someone has mentioned them, I usually just say thanks, its a pain doing my right hand etc)

nail polish on a bloke is a bit unusual so people may well comment. Although this is another reason why I think saying anything about appearance is a bad idea unless specifically asked.

Still, he said 'nice nails', so the reply is 'thank you'.

that's it, isn't it?

Ignore. I'm well jel my nails loook crappola mostly at the mo. I too have bought poundshop nail varnish, its pretty good.

I was a young adult in the 70s and 80s. (Glam Rock, New Romantics, etc). Make-up and nail polish on men was the norm. Why is it unusual now, suddenly? I really thought we had moved onwards and upwards

I'd wouldn't worry op, it probably made him feel macho and good about himself for about 30 seconds, I feel sorry for him.

Oh bless you.

You know women get this all the time? Nice tits, nice arse, cheer up might never happen, give us a smile, suck my cock. All the above for starters.

We don't have to do anything masculine to warrant comment. If we do we get it worse.

That is so true too, Doreen
So many battles still to be won.

Yup as I thought your nails put mine to shame

wow. I must be living in a different England because I've never heard any of that nonsense. Some builder whistling when I was younger but haven't heard that in decades.

and if it happens you can report it. Sounds like there are still a lot of men not to breed with, though.

take the comment on the nails as a compliment. (as you did)

Policing the performance of masculinity by other men and women is totally a thing. Welcome to the patriarchy, mate. If you think women aren't policed much, much worse you're kidding yourself.

take the comment on the nails as a compliment.

If you substitute 'nails' for 'tits', 'smile', 'arse' you realise that this attitude is part of the problem, not the solution.

I've just washed up (what joy) and thought a bit more and I think the guy was out of order really. Imagine if a woman decided to shave her head because she prefers it, this driver man says to her,
"Nice hair" in a condescending tone,
I think the woman would be right to be offended or whatever, not that I am, but its not a great attitude for a delivery driver of a supermarket. IMO. Though I may be wrong?
(Hair was the closest I could come to for a female alternative o me paitingnnails. Lol )

Our appearances and behaviour are policed constantly. And, in the main, no one gives a shit. Stop trying to make it an either/or thing. It's all part of the patriarchy which hurts people in order:

WoC, poor woman, gay women, women who don't/can't perform femininity

Other women

Gay men and men who can't/don't perform masculinity

Other men

Doreen you're right we do, and if a delivery driver said any of those to you, you'd be pissed off, right?

Of course OP is right to be pissed off - a delivery driver was rude to a customer. That is worthy of complaint.

Women get comments on their appearance all the time and if they posted about it on forums every time it happened, would have no time for anything else. "Nice nails" is mild by comparison compared to what the average woman hears in the course of an average week.

Loving the right on crowd who are agreeing with you about wanting to go to Poundland for some very ordinary nail varnish.

But yes, go ahead and complain. I complain every single time something slightly annoying happens to me. By the way, I'm thinking of meeting my next delivery driver topless, in boxer shorts. If the driver reacts, do you think I'd be U to complain?

WTAF?

here in adult-world we don't make remarks about genitalia, buttocks or breasts; to do so is indeed rude and annoying (reminder; don't breed with anyone who does this)

People do sometimes comment favourably on parts of the body which are visible. Not allowed, it seems. Don't do it.

So no saying anything pleasant about someone's smile - that is also really really insulting, we are told.

as mentioned I never comment on appearance unless asked. So I should be ok. It is a boring subject anyway.

OP, get that delivery driver sacked now for invading your personal space and treating you so badly.

or not...