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Homemade food gifts as christmas presents

241 replies

FlowersAndShit · 14/10/2015 12:53

What do you all think about homemade hampers with things like hm shortbread? Would you appreciate them or would they go straight in the bin?

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MumsTheWordYouKnow · 16/10/2015 20:29

PS I don't make hm stuff myself. But I would love to and would certainly gratefully receive some.

TheCatsMother99 · 16/10/2015 20:39

If I knew the person making the gift well then yes, I'd love home made foodie gifts. They're thoughtful gifts in my opinion.

nicestrongtea · 16/10/2015 21:13

"provocative"
Was that to me?

I would never be rude or ungracious, I would thank them profusely and regift to a jam/gin fan - made by a child ,I would bin it later Grin

NeverNic · 16/10/2015 22:11

I have made gifts before, but tbh I make foodie gifts as a token gesture. My neighbours get a little Christmas pudding or ginger loaf along with their card. I wouldn't hand make something as a proper main gift but I have given food hampers or foodie gifts I've put together myself

Personally I would love a home made food gift though no one ever does it for me. I love homemade jam and chutney. I wouldn't appreciate a hand made scarf etc. even though it would take way more time than jam to do and I have dodgy skin so any homemade scrubs I wouldn't use, but most of my friends know this, so I wouldn't get it.

I do find it a shame that because a child might have been involved in the making, products would be binned by some people. Sure if a school class of 32 were involved in making shortbread I probably would save it for Daddy, but not if a child made it with mum at home

Also agree with meowmeowmeow. Unless your cats are locked out of the kitchen permanently, your cat will be on your worktop or table. You'd be silly to think that they're not. I know the moment my back's turned they'll be up there. It's not a case of letting them. They just do it! I wipe my kitchen surfaces down several times throughout the day, spray the sides down before and after prepping food with antibacterial and use clean (through the dishwasher) boards. It's not difficult to do and I would hazard a guess my kitchen is possibly cleaner than someone without pets, because I'm more aware of germs.

Vickisuli · 16/10/2015 23:15

I agree with all those who say GET OVER the hygiene thing. I'm sure my kitchen would not pass any of your cleanliness test but no-one has ever got ill from my cooking.

I gave all our teachers home-made jam last year and several of them went our of their way to thank me more than once for it. So either they were pleased or they were really working the 'polite acceptance of something rubbish' thing.

Also I think it's lovely to get something made by kids. Bought presents are hardly ever going to be bought with the kid's own hard saved pennies, they are just from the parents. Something the child has put effort into shows they care much more. Although I wouldn't give teachers some kind of child-made ornament etc they ALWAYS make their cards, and I think home made biscuits made by the child are a lovely present.

Although obviously there are people that don't like jam or biscuits but surely these people have someone else in their life that would enjoy it?

I agree with mrs mortis on Dads. My dad is impossible to buy for as he needs/wants for nothing and has no hobbies you can buy him stuff for. He was so thrilled last year when I hand-made him dark chocolate brazils I will be doing it again this year.

Waltermittythesequel · 17/10/2015 00:01

But everyone's different.

If students gave me homemade jam I'd probably think the parents were a bit pretentious.

So, the point about knowing your audience is a valid one!

bettythebuilder · 17/10/2015 00:43

I've read half tft but it's a no from me.. I'm lactose intolerant so need to see labels with ingredients before I eat things or it could make me poorly. If things don't have ingredient lists, then I don't buy them or eat them. It's not a hygiene thing for me, that wouldn't bother me with homemede products (within reason!)

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 17/10/2015 07:36

Pretentious? What on earth is pretentious about making jam? You take sugar, fruit and lemon juice and you cook it. Then you put it into clean jars. It doesn't need expensive ingredients and anyone with a normal cooker and the ability to follow a recipe can do it.

Is it pretentious to do any cooking/baking at home now? Shock

bettythebuilder, you would be perfectly safe with jam or chutney as nothing goes into either of those that would contain lactose. Perfectly understand your concerns, though!

Mehitabel6 · 17/10/2015 07:44

It is no wonder MN is so addictive when you get little gems like 'making jam is pretentious'. Grin I can't think why anyone doesn't make it- so simple and cheap.

Mehitabel6 · 17/10/2015 07:46

This thread is inspiring me to get on and make lots of handmade gifts this year.

EllyHigginbottom · 17/10/2015 07:49

Making jam is pretentious. Shock

Do you also think that lentils are a middle-class affectation? (I've heard this one before on MN).

Mehitabel6 · 17/10/2015 07:58

I think that one has to go down as a MN classic!

Yika · 17/10/2015 08:00

I like getting food whether home made or bought - you have all the pleasure of the gift but no clutter to keep.

hazelisours · 17/10/2015 08:15

A much nicer gift in my humble opinion. Something which represents real thought and not buying into huge corporations. A win win :)

DoveCazzoEIlMioCaffe · 17/10/2015 08:19

Only someone who thinks Aldi jam is as good as it gets could possibly write 'making jam is pretentious'. I feel sorry for anyone with that mindset. What a shallow little life you must lead.

BlueJug · 17/10/2015 08:20

A good friend and excellent cook makes a cake every year for us Wonderful. Otherwise, no. Hate all these things that never get eaten and the idea that just because you have "put thought" into something , someone else should be obliged to like it.

Interesting thread though - a real range of views

Notoedike · 17/10/2015 09:07

I love it when guests come to my home for dinner and they bring a homemade foodie gift. I'm not keen on recieving any other kind of gift because I don't need anything. Time is the precious commodity in our lives and if someone has spent time making a gift then it's always worth more to me. I also love it when the kids come home from school with their tasty cooking - I know lots on here wouldn't touch their child's efforts.
I make the dcs and dh a foodie gift every Christmas - dd likes big chewy choc chip cookies, but they would go off before they were eaten so we chuck them in the freezer and eat them when all the other Christmas food has been eaten.

Waltermittythesequel · 17/10/2015 09:34

I said giving it as a gift is a little pretension so calm down Deliah-bots.

Every single person on this thread who makes homemade gifts has been banging on about how much time and care and love has gone into it, like they should get a medal or something!

That says to me that the "gift" is more about the giver saying 'look how wonderful I am' than it is about the recipient actually enjoying the present.

Hope that clears up any confusion :)

CookieMonsterIsOnADiet · 17/10/2015 10:17

Do people really want home made jam or chutney for Christmas? I can't imagine it's at the top of anyone's list. Likewise that awful vodka with sweets in.

HM gifts always seem to be about the giver not the person receiving them.

Taking something home made to add to the christmas meals of it fits (and you know the kitchen is clean) but otherwise it's a strange choice of gift for many.

LaurieMarlow · 17/10/2015 10:39

Those who don't see the value of HM jam above shop bought clearly don't 'get' jam. It's like the difference between a bar of Valrhona and a bar of Dairy Milk.

That said, my ideal hm present is a bottle of sloe gin. I would be in seventh heaven.

sleeponeday · 17/10/2015 10:54

Ì can't make jam. Tried but can't do it. I love nice food, so either buy the really good homemade stuff, or am grateful for gifts from people who can make it.

The thing is, being a foodie is a hobby - it's not a moral imperative. There's nothing at all wrong with being into other things, seeing food just as fuel, or really not having a good palate. I find sports boring, and am useless at them, too. It's unreasonable to attack people for not being into good food. But it's also unreasonable to misrepresent why people on this thread bang on about the care and love, right after they reacted that way when told making the food is cheapskate.

I used to get paid for baking. I do it to a very high standard. These days, with kids and other work, I only do it as a thank you or birthday/Christmas present. I know those are appreciated because I'm asked to bake for special events, paid, by the recipients. But it is just food. It's not like I write amazing poems for every person as a published and acclaimed poet. I'm not some Grammy award winner writing personal love songs. I bake a bloody cake, which gets eaten, and evokes a slightly fond memory.

I think the people who mention knowing your audience are right. There are some people who would love such presents, and some who would be, "...is that it?" and no matter the love and care, giving that present to those people is pointless.

When it comes to a present from an acquaintance, though, basic good manners dictates that you are appreciative, no matter what it is. They don't know you, they were kind enough to think of you, that is all that matters. Socks, jam, cake, or bottle of vintage wine - irrelevant. It was kind.

Mehitabel6 · 17/10/2015 19:07

I think that saying giving jam as a gift is pretentious is just as peculiar!

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 17/10/2015 19:08

i agree - why on earth is it pretentious? What a very odd thing to say. Confused

saucony · 17/10/2015 19:18

This thread is so terribly MN and hilarious. Grin

derxa · 17/10/2015 19:18

i'm Confused at jam making/cake making being pretentious. From a long line of SWRI women who were expert cooks. How very silly. My aunts and cousins were/are the salt of the earth.

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