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Original poster

To be crying and feeling sorry for myself

16 replies

pnutter · 13/10/2015 13:33

In the last few months I've

Had a breakdown with severe depression
Had a miscarriage
Lost my Dad
Separated from husband after dv
Lost my job
Attempted suicide
Now my back has gone I'm in a lot of pain
And it took me an hour walking round trip for school run
Can't stop crying like a baby

OP posts:
Gottagetmoving · 13/10/2015 13:41

No YANBU.
Its ok to feel sorry for yourself and have a cry. You have been through a lot and no one would be ok after all that.
I hope you are getting some help and support somewhere?
Talk to your GP - Talk to close relatives and let people know how shitty you are feeling.
Please do not try to cope with all this on your own. You deserve some care and comforting so DO talk to someone.

ExtraBlessings · 13/10/2015 14:57

Wow. Poor you. No wonder it feels like its all piling up.

Start with a cup of tea and some pain relief for your back.

Second what gotto said about seeking support. Definitely see the GP and also is there someone to talk to- family or a good friend? Could someone give you practical support with the school run?

Ive had a shitty couple of years myself and asking for help can make a big difference (it come in many forms from different people).

Things will pick up for you.

PurpleDaisies · 13/10/2015 14:59

Sending Brew,Cake and Flowers. It is rotten when everything gets on top of you. Have you got anyone you can call to come and help you out?

Thurlow · 13/10/2015 15:06

Good lord no, of course you are not. Flowers and [tea] for you, you've been through so much recently.

Sometimes nothing beats having a good cry and sitting for a while feeling sorry for yourself. So go with it for a while.

Now - clean your face, put the kettle on, take more painkillers if you're allowed them, or get the hot water bottle/cold pack to put on your back.

Can we help you with anything practical? PPs are right. Are you putting on a brave face to friends and family? Is it time to confide in someone and ask for some practical support?

Original poster
pnutter · 13/10/2015 15:08

Seeing gp Thursday
Physio today for back
Just don't have anyone to help at home but if back gets sorted I should be ok

Thanks

OP posts:
Gottagetmoving · 13/10/2015 15:18

BTW,..Bereavement counselling may help too. Get all the help you can. You have had to deal with too much.

KoalaDownUnder · 13/10/2015 15:22

God, just one of those things would have me crying like a baby.

YANBU, lovely OP CakeFlowers

FeelingSoBlue · 13/10/2015 15:34

YANBU at all Op, not having anyone to help at home or with the school run adds pressure doesn't it? Ask friends and family or help and advice. Let people know how you're feeling and definitely see your gp. Don't overdo the physio Flowers

ChristmasZombie · 13/10/2015 15:39

Of course YANBU! I'm glad you're getting some support.

I hope you begin to feel better after a good cry. It helps to let your feelings out.

FlowersCake and an unmumsnetty hug.

thegreysheep · 13/10/2015 15:43

God you poor thing, had to log in to say chin up and you are doing well to put one foot into the other at all. Sorry for the loss of your father and your miscarriage, that's a lot to deal with for anyone. As for the other problems you've had to deal with, I'd say they are inter-related in part to the DV and as you are away from that relationship now hopefully the rest will get better over time. As for your back I often find mine goes if I've been ill or at a low ebb, just what you need. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and you are doing REALLY well and you sound really brave from your posts. Hugs XXX

LadyDeirdreWaggon · 13/10/2015 15:50

God no! Flowers I agree with thegreysheep, often my body goes haywire in response to mental stress. Keep on keeping on xx

Polgara2015 · 13/10/2015 16:19

Wow - that's so much for one person to bare.

Despite all of that you're still doing the school run and looking after your children.

You deserve a medal - and a cry if it helps.

green18 · 13/10/2015 17:07

YANBU that an awful lot of sad things to happen in a short space of time. Allow yourself to have a good cry but also try to accomplish small things each day too, even if it's just getting dressed and tidying up. Good luck Flowers

Original poster
pnutter · 13/10/2015 18:22

Thank you . Have to go back for more physio Saturday as have a bulging disc and sciatica ...have some stretches to do at home

Have picked up dc
All eaten and I feel better than I did.
I have therapy tomorrow and that will help too. Thank you all

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green18 · 13/10/2015 18:48

You have identified what you can do to fix the things that are fixable and you're doing something about it i.e going to Drs about your back. You've organised some therapy. You're looking after your children. That's being really strong so don't be hard on yourself. When the chn are in bed allow yourself time to cry. I really hope life gets better for you soon but it sounds like you're doing all the right things. Keep on keeping on xxx

paulapompom · 13/10/2015 20:07

Yadddnbu. That's a heap of horrible stuff. But you are dealing with it. Well done, keep going. FlowersBrew xx

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