His money AIBU

[mummy92]

DH recently left his job for another and he got a pay out off just over £600 I'm currently on Mat leave and due to return to work in 2 weeks I asked hubby if I could have some money so I didn't have to return to work until after Christmas but then in end we decided to use it on Christmas presents only for me to ask him for some money for him to tell me he has spent it on his hobby and he's now turned it round and said he never offered me the money for Christmas presents and I always pay for Christmas presents which I have done but we have only be together for 4 years and already have 2 young children the first was a bit of an accident and now I'm unsure what to do I cannot afford to buy all the Christmas presents and I doubt I will get money from him he may save up and give me some or may not depends how he feels AIBU to feel totally upset please no bashing as I'm totally confused on what to do

Easiest way for presents - I have a spender too. Is that u both increase the amount u contribute to the pot then u put the extra month into separate savings as a presents account

Purplepoodle will have to do that. December and January are always hard months as both our girls birthdays are January.

As for with dd's he does help when asked but will admit he finds our baby girl hard work, but he is a good dad

Your children didn't sleep through the night from birth. So basically he slept and you didn't.

Does he do much at home now? Cook? Clean? Bedtimes?

he's their parent, he should not be only 'helping when asked'.

If you can't afford to buy christmas presents then don't. Nobody will die.

But you're married and have 2 kids. Money should be family money, and not something you have to beg for. Of course he can spend some on his hobbies too - once the family expenses have been taken care of.