Ok, this is not about me being grabby. I am happy for people to bring presents or not to my children's parties. But AIBU to think this woman is point scoring on a massive scale and that she shouldn't have accepted the invitation in the first place.
This woman and I detest each other. Massive back story that means she hates me. There's more recent history that has clearly reignited her wrath towards me. [some content removed by MNHQ to protect posters anonymity]
One of my girls has just had a party at home. She wanted to invite all the girls in her class, so I did, despite not wanting this woman anywhere near my house. Child turns up with another parent (fine) and mother picks her up. Refuses to actually cross my threshold, despite being invited in, and when we open presents after the party I realise she hasn't even sent a card.
She's loaded, there's no reason why she couldn't bung a fiver in the collection someone organised if she didn't want to lower herself to actually wrap a present for my daughter. This is her point scoring at her worst.
As I said, it's absolutely not about present grabbing. My daughter has more than enough and hasn't noticed. But if she hates me that much, surely you don't send your daughter and make up an excuse. Which is what I'll be doing if she does another class party this year.
Her vitriol never ceases to amaze me, but this is an all time low for her. I am tempted to call her bluff and ask her what she brought, as all the presents and cards got mixed up and I want to write thank you cards. That would be really petty and sinking to her level, wouldn't it.