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Spa/Pool etiquette

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WaitingForEgg · 11/10/2015 19:19

I've just returned home from an amazing spa break with SiL. All was great except an issue in the spa pool area. We had been on Saturday and found the pool pretty busy, they had a wedding party visiting and lots were using the facilities on the Saturday. We still had a great time and decided to come back after checkout today (we checked with the hotel who said we could use the spa all day). We enter the pool area which is a fairly large pool with jacuzzi surrounded by loungers. I am almost 8 months pregnant and wanted to sit by the pool and read for a while whilst SiL swam. Half the loungers were occupied, then the rest had towels/personal belongings on. One chair had just a newspaper on it, so SiL said oh sit there. I moved the newspaper next to the chair (not where it would get wet) and sat down. There were no other items on the chair, so I figured there was a good chance whoever had been using it had left. About 10 minutes later a very huffy women walked over to tell me actually this was her newspaper. I said ok, i'm sorry, no one was sat here so I didn't know. She then started really having a go at me. Telling me how rude I was to move her things. Now I don't mean to sound entitled, but it was a newspaper! It wasn't her handbag. And surely she can't expect to leave a chair unattended but expect no one to sit there whilst she uses other facilities. Her partner was in the pool and then also started shouting at me. They made me feel so uncomfortable. He kept saying "You knew someone was sat there, you are so rude etc etc". I explained actually no I didn't. People often read newspapers and leave them on seats, there were no towels, flip flops, key, book etc, no personal items at all on the seat. I wanted to sit down and no one was sat there so what harm was I doing? They proceeded to glare at me for the next 15 minutes they were in the pool until they left. Was I unreasonable to move one scrunched up newspaper from an otherwise unoccupied lounger to sit down?

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GwynethPaltrowIamNot · 11/10/2015 19:24

No you weren't , they were being twats

Personal items = leave chair alone

Rubbish = chair all yours

I cannot believe they would begrudge a pregnant woman a seat

MisForMumNotMaid · 11/10/2015 19:25

YANBU to move it but now you need to lt it go and focus on the nice bits of the break.

JeffsanArsehole · 11/10/2015 19:26

What the fuck is the point in being pregnant if you can't hooley the newspaper into the pool next to twat monkey while screaming like a banshee?

You totally missed a trick Grin

They were cunts. Total cunts. I'd have told her to fuck off.

theycallmemellojello · 11/10/2015 19:27

Hm I'm torn. They were very U to shout at a pregnant lady like that, and it is very annoying when people bag chairs like that by leaving their belongings on them. However, in circumstances where everyone is doing it, I don't know whether there is much to be done about it. I probably would have assumed that the newspaper was intended to reserve someone's seat in circumstances where everyone was reserving seats by leaving stuff on them. But they definitely came off worse by shouting, especially as you were pregnant. Poor you :(

londonrach · 11/10/2015 19:29

Ive just been to a spa and put my book towel etc on a empty chair as going to go for a swim first and i very friendly life guard popped over and asked us to place the items on the shelf as you couldnt place anything on the chair unless you were using them. I thought that was a very good idea. Why dont they have more shelfs as you dont want your bits to get wet. Back to op they were being reasonable.

ConfusedInBath · 11/10/2015 19:31

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BolshierAryaStark · 11/10/2015 19:34

Yep Jeff has it bang on.
Definitely required a fuck off, pair of twats.

WaitingForEgg · 11/10/2015 19:47

Thanks everyone, I thought they were being twats but started to second guess myself. Thing is I even apologised when the women said it was her paper. Then they proceeded to have a go at me. I mean what more did they want? My SiL said other spas she's been to have signs saying if you leave items on chairs longer than 15 minutes without use they will be moved. I think that's a good idea tbh. There were no where near enough loungers for everyone to do that, to me it's rude to not allow people to sit down when you aren't using a seat.

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WaitingForEgg · 11/10/2015 19:50

Jeff love your reply Grin honestly I felt like losing my shit but quite frankly didn't have the energy. They must have little happiness in their life to care so much!

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Youarentkiddingme · 11/10/2015 19:58

Jeff Grin

They were twats to shout at you pregnant or not. I'm not sure exactly when a simple, excuse me I was using that chair where has my newspaper gone, became a thing of the past.
To shout at you for sitting in a chair they didn't even use after shouting at you is just madness at its best!

NotAWhaleOmeletteInSight · 11/10/2015 22:37

I bet it was the daily mail. I'd have dropped it in a puddle and laughed.

VonHerrBurton · 11/10/2015 23:31

This is a massive problem, in spas, holiday resorts and hotels all over the world, there doesn't seem to be anywhere that has the answer!

I think you were being most reasonable op. There must be a way to stop the book-on-the-bed brigade from dumping their stuff and claiming the bed as theirs for the day. It's a pain in the arse. Paying ££££ for spa days/weekends only to find nowhere to sit and 50 empty beds full of the Invisible Mans' stuff.

Hope you had a great time apart from that annoyance!

MidniteScribbler · 12/10/2015 03:23

Unless there's an arse in it, then any chair is fair games as far as I'm concerned.

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