Sister selling my childhood stuff

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My mum is moving from our childhood home & my sister & I have helped her clear out everything and get it ready for selling.

I've noticed my sister listing some things that were mine from when we were younger on fb selling sites. Until today nothing too important but just seen she's listed my old Polaroid camera that I thought was long gone! I'm quite shocked she's selling it without mentioning it to me as it's definitely mine she never had a Polaroid & I have a lot of Polaroid pics taken when I was younger that were stuck on the walls of my old bedroom.

Kind of annoyed as 1 - it's mine and I'd quite like to keep it & 2 - we are skint and if it was being sold we would want the cash!

AIBU?

Why does she have all the stuff if you cleared it out together?

Err just call her and ask what's going on. Tell her not to sell your stuff. Ask her why she's doing it. Etc.

Perhaps she just doesn't realise that you remember it or how important it is?

It can't be that important to OP. It was left behind when OP moved out of the parental home and OP thought it had long since been disposed of. And by the sounds of things OP wasn't too devastated that it was "long gone", until sister pulled her cheeky stunt.

I agree the sister shouldn't sell it without asking permission but I don't think OP can claim a great sentimental attachment to the item.

If they have been gathering dust at your mum's for years and years, I don't think she is unreasonable to come to the conclusion you don't want it.

If thise things are important to you, just tell her and make sure you collect the stuff from her asap. Not because she can make money out of think but because it is not fair on her to be expected to keep what for her is only clutter just in case you may want it in the future.

i can imagine me resenting my mother and sister for binning/disposing of old items I have not bothered to pick up in the years since I left my parents' home. It is not fair to be overwhelmed with other people's clutter.

Good grief... I mean't to say I can't imagine resenting my mother or sister for disposing of the clutter I left behind.

Will anyone really pay money for a Polaroid? I would have thought camera phones have rendered them obsolete

I think I would have to comment on the Fb posts.

Politely at first, like.
Then both barrels if she gets the hump.

I couldn't just let it go without saying anything, I'd resent it for years.

Will anyone really pay money for a Polaroid? I would have thought camera phones have rendered them obsolete

Yeah if you can get film for that type of Polaroid. Everyone loves a Polaroid at a party/wedding.

It's cheeky bit just ring her and say you didn't realise she had found your Polaroid and you'd actually like it. Also if she has anything else of yours please to check.

It's generally easier to just speak to people!

So you left all your old clutter behind, probably hadn't thought about it for years but no you suddenly want it back.
Surely if it was that important it would have either gone with you or you would have mentioned that you were going to collect it soon.

Funny what the thought of potential money does to people!

FFS don NOT post 'stolen item' on the Ebay listing. Do you want your sister's Ebay account shut down and possible police involvement?

Unless there's a long history of spite and competitiveness between you and her, she probably thinks that the stuff she is selling is stuff no one in the family wants. So if there are things you do want, say so but ask nicely and be reasonable - given that you haven't thought about this stuff in years.

I don't understand why, if these items were so precious, you didn't move them to your own home.

I would phone her and set her straight.

SilverOldie2... and I don't understand how people don't understand that it's possible to lose things in a home you've lived in your entire life. I moved out more than 10 years ago and I'm STILL finding things that got shoved in some "special" place in my family home. It doesn't mean those things aren't still special, they are, that's why they were "hidden".

But honestly that's besides the point. It doesn't matter whether the OP doesn't think it's special or not. It's still HERS. It's still theft for her sister to take it. We just seem to forgive it when it's family members doing the stealing and excuse it as "just something siblings do".

Also, I don't think some of you read that post about stolen items closely enough. The poster suggested talking to the sister first and if that didn't work posting "stolen item" to stop people trying to buy it.

Thanks everyone. The camera isn't 'so precious' it's just something I'd forgotten about but don't want sold tbh & if it is sold why should it line my sister's pocket? I'll tall to her tonight. Just wondered if I was being silly or if other people would react the same..

My brother did something similar. To be honest I thought fair play to him making an effort because I had long forgotten about some things ( vinyl records from the 80s had been languishing in mums attic for neary 30 years). He may as well keep the cash as he got off his arse and took them to a specialised record shop in Chester- (I never was going to get around to doing it, truth be told!)

Why would it line your sister's pocket? Because she is doing the lion's share of the mamouth task of decluttering an old woman's house?

I doubt very much she plans to keep the money herself though, most people who sell staff in behalf of old people use the money to pay expenses related to the old person (even if it is used to take them out for a Sunday meal when the rest of the family is too busy to get more involved)