Non Anniversaries.

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To think that people who tell you that it's their 15th or whatever anniversary when they are no longer married are odd.

Understandable if they're widowed, but not when they have divorced and even remarried sometimes.

One woman I know does this regularly, in a "I've been married longer than you" sort of way.

I sort of say this as I've been married twice, in a kind of 'I've been married half my life, can't believe I've only had sex with two people in over 20 years'

I suspect that's not the same

A while ago, DM said to me "do you realise that if your father was still alive we would have been married for 50 years?" Yes DM, you would have been but you seem to have forgotten that you got divorced in 1987!

My parent's tell everyone they've been together 22 years despite the fact they were split up in total for 16 years. My mind boggles. My mother had another partner during this time.

This reminds me of one of my DDad's sayings 'I would have been a wonderful violinist, had I ever learned'

I was married for 31 years, then my H ran off with another woman. I filed for divorce, it took 18 months to be completed, so technically I was married for 32 years, if anyone ever asks I say I was married for 31 yrs - I don't count the pre divorce period when we were separated as 'marriage'.

I don't acknowledge in anyway the date of our wedding anniversary, I would consider it bizarre to do so - it is meaningless now.

I intend to raise a glass to my lawyer next year in June on my divorciversary though

I thought this was going to be about people who celebrate their 'three month anniversary' of going out together or similarly trivial things.

(Never mind that 'anniversary' means 'one year return' and so you can't have a 'three month anniverary' or it'd be a trimensiversary. /pedant moment)

Anyway YANBU. That sounds weird. Trimensiversaries are weirder though

Thanks hellkitty. She's asked for us all to be with her for the day and to go out for lunch. Understandably she wants her family around her