To think the school should have called me?

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My DD is four (almost five) and in reception. A friend brought her home for me today and when she got home I saw that she had a huge bruise and bump on her forehead. My friend said she'd told her on the walk that she'd fallen over in the playground and hit her head on the floor.

The bump was unnaturally huge, and the bruise with it looked terrible...

She said she was tired (though she always is after school so i was unsure if this meant anything sinister) and she couldn't remember when she did it but that the teacher had helped her. I thought if it had happened hours ago she was probably fine, but if it was more recent then maybe I should get some advice...

I called her school and the teacher said they were completely unaware she had fallen. I asked her again and she said again that her teacher had helped her up. The teacher then remembered and said 'oh yes, that was about an hour ago, she slipped in some water'

The was sort of weird in itself, but I feel like they should have called me? And after hitting her head hard enough to immediately get a bump and bruise shouldn't there at least be some kind of accident book? Without the visible evidence I would have been none the wiser and I feel like it should have been my decision to bring her home or not. She was so upset and saying how much her head hurt, she hasn't been herself all evening.

AIBU?

Yes, all of those signs are worrying, but a bruise on the forehead doesn't on its own signify a serious injury. Foreheads (faces) are incredibly vascular and will bleed copiously. If that bleeding is under the skin it will form a swelling and cruise.

If the child is behaving normally after a knock to the head, it's likely that they're OK. In any event, if they have delayed symptoms, as soon as they are not behaving normally the staff would notice and deal with it accordingly. If my children were sent home/I was called every time they banged their heads, their attendance rate would be shocking.

You should definitely have got a bumped head note. I thought that was an ofsted requirement.

That is really bad and I would take pictures of the bump to show her school on Monday just so they are aware that you are not making a fuss over nothing. If she still seems to not be her usual self I would take her to minor injuries or out of hours gp to get checked over.

At my dc's school they won't call unless the child actually needs to be taken home or for medical treatment but they will always fill in an accident slip for any bump/fall/graze etc and if they bump their head they always give them an ice pack and an "I bumped my head" sticker.

It sounds like the teacher didn't realise that she had actually hurt herself which seems strange as to cause a huge bump would have really hurt and she must have cried and looked like she was in pain