I'm doubting how unreasonable I wasn't being.

[CatMilkMan]

DP uses my shower brush to clean the bath.
I caught her doing it and thought it was weird and a bit gross, she thinks it's totally normal.
I use it to clean myself she uses it to clean the bath, was she being unreasonable? She said she won't do it again and had no idea I wouldn't want her to.

CrapBag

I ask the question because we have a sponge designed to clean baths in our bathroom. I was wondering if the OP's household had something similar. If not, perhaps that explains why his DP ends up having to use his shower brush. I did not intend to be patronising.

YABU as you should have cleaned out your own bath you lazy sod

It wasn't his bath - it was his DPs

YANBU, that's gross.

catfordbetty "If not, perhaps that explains why his DP ends up having to use his shower brush."

She doesn't have to use his shower brush!

YANBU on the shower brush issue.

YABU making my head hurt with the double negatives. Why the self-doubt?

Devils advocate but what's wrong with using your face cloth to wipe the bath after you've finished using it on yourself, and immediately before putting it in the wash? I think your 5 year old's got it right Naboutique :o My youngest likes "cleaning" the bath with his face cloth too (with bubbles while he is in the full bath, after washing which is done first). Face cloths go in the wash after every bath/ use surely?

I am not remotely clenchy about cleaning and laundry type stuff but reusing face cloths is one of my squirm factors - my mother thinks its fine to wipe multiple children's hands and mouths with the same cloth, which she then leaves dangling over the kitchen tap to smear other or the same children with again a few hours later/ the next day/ for a few days - genuinely disgusing IMO. L

eaving a wet, used face cloth lying about the bathroom to be used again next day would be much yuckier than using it to wipe the bath then putting it straight in the wash surely?

JaneAustinAllegro "YABU as you should have cleaned out your own bath you lazy sod"

Why don't you read the OP's posts? It was after her bath!

Gruntfuttock

No she doesn't but you know what it's like when there's nothing else to hand.

Do we know the op is a man? Not what I assumed.

YANBU OP

Iliked - no, i don't wash face-cloths/flannels every time they are used. I suspect I'm not alone in that.

... or maybe buy yourself another one and that one can be the cleaning the bath one

This is really the point I'm trying to make - perhaps there is nothing else in the bathroom that's suitable.

I'm pretty slovenly by MN standards but even I think that's pretty grim.

Normally who ever uses the bath cleans it, she had a bath and then jumped in to the shower and didn't rinse the bath out which is what we both normally do.
If I had known I would have used the cleaning products under the sink in the bathroom if I couldn't just rinse it out.

Seriously Cat she said she wasn't going to do it again.
So why making such a huge fuss out if it?
It's like you are expecting her to come out in huge excuses, feeling contrived and really bad about it and because she hasn't done so yet, then it's not good enough.

MN, IMO, is the last place to ask about that sort if stuff. You have some posters that are completely anal about cleaning and what us ok or not and make everyone feeling a dirty pig compare to them.
In reality, as Scob said, I'm sure loads of people do that sort of things. They just dont dare saying so on here .

I agree with Pacific, she's apologised and said she won't do it again so stop raking the arse out of it. You probably have habits that she doesn't like too.....does she tell the world about it?

YABU for being disloyal to your DP.

^Seriously Cat she said she wasn't going to do it again.
So why making such a huge fuss out if it?^

I'm not making a huge fuss about it at all I simply wondered if other people think like she did that this is pretty normal or thought that it isn't normal like me.

I have no idea how I'm being disloyal, she thought 1 thing and I thought something else so I'm asking what other people thought.

Totally disagree with Yvonnebb - the way i read it was, op's dp did something they considered really odd, wouldn't have dreamt of doing themselves, and op just wanted to find out what the 'norm' was and if they were out of sync for thinking this was odd.

I've learned of all sorts of perfectly normal things i do, are considered odd, or rude, or even downright disgusting by some MNers. I find it a fascinating place for the study of mankind

Why does anyone need a brush like that? Is it for reaching the impertinent crevices of your undercarriage, Catmilkman?

It also wouldnt bother me either if it was just to swish things away, I often do this with a flannel or loofa. Now if she decided to "really clean" the bath with it, as in sticking in a bit of bleach or what ever and scrub, then I'd have a word.

Scobber

As an aside- is she short? I ask because I've attached a sponge to a similar implement as I'm so fucking short and it makes it easier to clean round the bath.
I mean really, I have trouble stepping out of the bath down on to the floor, it's just too far for my little legs.
OP I agree it's wrong to use your body cleaning thingy to clean a bath.

Have two brushes in different colours, and keep one for bath-cleaning duties?