AIBU to really hate the sex reversal threads?

[abbieanders]

They're clearly all by men anyway, and by men who don't like women or trust women to have a discussion based on anything other than sex.

If you think women aren't capable of just reading the thread then why bother asking?

What wannabe said. With bells on.

The double standards on here is appalling.

Women on here can call other women anything they want, and they get cheered on.

A fuckwit is a fuckwit whether it's got a dick or not.

In the wake of Hackergate I can understand an air of caution sadly.

I have two senior managers at work, and when they send an e-mail to all female recipients they always start it with 'Ladies'. I want to cringe and scream Every Single Time.

There's an air of caution because of one fuckwit and pervading hysteria every time a man posts. It's embarrassing to read frankly.

Yes, some men come on to MN to whack their dicks around. Some women come on to MN to do the female equivalent. Some women come on to MN to be goady fucking, lying, vile trolls. Per capita I'd say there are more women arses on MN than men.

And in 12 yrs of being on MN, the only problem I've had with a man was with a certain MP. If there's a man on a thread pissing you off or being a dick, don't engage. I see lots of threads where men and women OPs are on a wind up and posters come on and just give them more ammo.

But that one fuckwit arranged for people to be swatted among other things.

As I say I haven't seen this hysteria, I must be in the wrong topics.

I'm with you usual, I think the same.

Yes he did Sparks. And a lot of female trolls meet people, get under their skin and run off with their dinner money.

It's just the silly comments on threads when the OP is clearly a man that grate. It doesn't make MN look like manhaters. It makes MN look pathetic in all honesty. It's a very Victorian palpitation sort of attitude to have.

Pie and Bovril weekend usual. Remember that?

I see lots of threads where men and women OPs are on a wind up and posters come on and just give them more ammo

I agree. I've been here for a number of years under different names and it isn't a male only phenomenon

I think 99% of posters on MN are on the wind up lately.

Yes, they are annoying, as are the people who complain about 'double standards' in the way in which (perceived) male and female posts are responded to. Those complainers are the ones who think 'reverse sexism', like 'reverse racism' is actually a thing, and are too hard of thinking to grasp fundamental power differentials.

When rare male posters ask for advice on abusive situations in which they are the victim, they (ime) get the same brisk, sympathetic practical support as women.

Having said that, I don't think I've ever been fooled by a male poster pretending to be female.

It definitely seems worse at the moment sparkling. I thought it would get better after the school hols ended but there are so many suspicion threads (maybe my troll-dar is over sensitive) that half the time I wonder if it is worth posting just to get deleted when the op turns out to be dodgy.

When rare male posters ask for advice on abusive situations in which they are the victim, they (ime) get the same brisk, sympathetic practical support as women.

I disagree a bit there. In most instances yes, but certainly not always ime.

Well, I haven't seen every post, but I can think of several on the Relationships board over the last while that have been fully as supportive.

One big difference in how these posts are responded to - and, I think, a legitimate one - is that male victims of, say emotional/physical domestic abuse are far less likely to be financially dependent on their abusers. So in one, important way, they are freer and more empowered than their female equivalents, who are so often out of the workplace for years and reliant on a controlling partner for 'housekeeping'. Which is not to minimise the abuse, but it changes a crucial element.

I'm not completely sure that it is a sex thing anyway, I think it's an 'OP' thing, people often just unthinkingly rush to support the OP without thinking about the bigger picture and how the other people in the story are affected by what's happening. And because the OP is most frequently female it normally means that the woman is sided with.

But it's not just when the OP is talking about a situation with a man either, often the other person involved is a woman. There have been several threads on here which have made me feel extremely uncomfortable where the OP has been egged on to do things which amount to workplace bullying eg 'AIBU to punch this woman in the face because the way she eats annoys me', 'AIBU to scream at my junior to 'fuck off''.

I've seen posts where the OP tries to appear neutral by say Person A did this and Person B did that but when the OP is one of those people, there is always a bias in their favour, so they might as well be upfront from the start.

Any kind of reversal is just a straight up lie and should be banned imo.