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Need your help MN (parking, sorry)!

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judydoes · 04/10/2015 22:02

I work both weekend nights in a nightclub, along with a fair few other people.

There's a car park behind the club with enough room for about 8 or 9 cars. It belongs to the club but often other people use it too.

Sometimes, staff go out after work, have a drink so leave their cars, collecting them the following day. I do this myself on occasion.

Anyway on Friday night I went to the car park and another worker was just parking,right across the entrance. The car park was full so this was the only place she could park.

Fine, I parked in a public car park five mins walk away.

Saturday night, I arrived earlier, hoping to get in the car park, and this car was still there, obviously she had had a drink or had some other reason to leave it.

I messaged the woman in question asking was she working that night, figuring if she was, she'd be arriving within a few minutes therefore could move her car so I could get in.

I realise now, this was foolish because the car had obviously been there all that day, from the previous night. Therefore nobody else could have got out of the car park, nor into it that day or night. I just didn't think about that, whereas now I have , I realise no point in texting her to ask if she was coming in, regardless-there would still have been no room for me!

Anyway, later on that night she replied saying she wasn't working that night due to a kerfuffle with another member of staff (none of my business why she wasn't working but that's what was said).

Anyway, I replied 'Okay, I was just asking as nobody could get in the car park'

Her replies;

1 'I do apologise. RU bein serious?'
2 (few minutes later) 'I can't b arsed arguing with u. Bit ridiculous real but wit u (I think she means I) say is this. If I wanna park in that car park that's exactly wot il do. Wgo the fuck do u think u r?'

Now, since then she's replied again. I've not opened this message but my phone shows me the first part of it, which reads 'Sorry for booting off (booting off??) last night. I jsut thought you were trying 2 hav'.... (Can't see rest).

WHAT shall I reply to this. I have to work with her? I don't understand the defensiveness, I don't know if it was/is my place to point out that It's rather selfish to block the car park so the workers in it (not just from where we work!) can't get out and nobody else can get in?

I don't know what to say at all. Plus I am rather vexed at being addressed that way in any case. I wasn't arguing!

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Imustgodowntotheseaagain · 04/10/2015 22:09

Ignore it and ask management to have a word? It was selfish of her to block the entrance.

BoyScout · 04/10/2015 22:16

Surely all the people who have been needing to get in or out of the car park have been all over her? I'm surprised it's not been towed.

Her messages make no sense to me. I'd ignore and then when you see her just say sorry for any misunderstanding, I was just checking where you were.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 04/10/2015 22:21

Sounds like she A) is very rude and B) may not realise she's actually blocked the entrance.

Are you certain she actually has? Surely all the other people with cars in the car park must have been livid if they were blocked in?

judydoes · 04/10/2015 22:22

I have informed management, I don't feel It's right to speak to a co-worker like that.

boyscout if they weren't people who worked in the club, they wouldn't have had a clue who/where the owner of the car was. If they were co-workers, then you're right. I don't know if it inconvenienced anybody but I'd be surprised if not-I got there just in time for work so anybody arriving earlier would have already been in the car park, and blocked in.

I just feel, if it were me getting that text msg, I'd have said 'So sorry, something came up and I couldn't collect my car' or similar. It seems very 'off' to react like that.

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judydoes · 04/10/2015 22:25

It was definitely blocked, needmore.It's only a narrow entrance. I don't know who else was parked in there before her, though. I didn't mention it to anybody at work. It's possible the car park was full of non-workers thus she'd have been non-contactable, possibly but not very likely.

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judydoes · 04/10/2015 22:27

I agree it was very rude. I have to work with her again next weekend.

I don't know what to say to her. Possibly something like 'Jackie, I don't respond to rude messages like that. I figured you must have been upset about something when you wrote it so I just left you to it'?

Any better suggestions? She's a very loud, 'noisy' person and I am the opposite.

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Jux · 04/10/2015 22:31

I can see why she blocked the entrance that first night, but it was unbelievably selfish and thoughtless to then leave her car blocking it. And not to have moved it the next day? No excuses. She then compounds it by being rude to you.

I wouldn't reply to her, but I would complain to management about it and hope that they come down quite hard on her.

Yambabe · 04/10/2015 22:31

I'd just reply "no worries, see you next week" and leave it at that.

I certainly wouldn't be reporting it to management (wtf?) or getting stressed out about it. Some people are shits, and having cars seems to make them into worse shits. Life is too short - I would just park elsewhere and crack on with my life Smile

judydoes · 04/10/2015 23:11

Thank you all for replying.

She has since messaged me apologising, saying she had had a very bad day and didn't realise she'd caused a problem until she thought about it, and she's sorry for taking it out on me. Said if anybody had have rang her and explained she'd have gone and moved her car rightaway.

:)I've accepted, life/short and all that.

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mileend2bermondsey · 04/10/2015 23:32

She sounds thick as two short planks. She didn't realise what she'd done until someone else mentioned it? Dimwit. And an agressive dimwit at that.

judydoes · 05/10/2015 16:41

:D mileend

Management did speak to her about it-I was informed this morning. I am thinking that's why she apologised. Hmm

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