To think we will always be judged

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Hi just want to ask this question really, before posting a few weeks ago I was a long time lurker and on certain threads usually about toddler groups the phrase "deprived areas or "mums from the estates"
The reason I mention this is we live on a half council half owned estate and our house is an ex council house. We have never had any issues with the area but whenever I mention we live there i either get a pity hmmmmm or a visible recoil, unless its people who have lived or know people who live there and know its actually ok, it used to be a not rough but is now actually pretty great, I have this on the authority of some of the older residents.
I have epilesy so can only afford to work part time and even though my DH us full time we would struggle to move.
I am just worried that we and our DS will forever be judged on where we live, I have had even had some people say you need to move for DS sake
Just wondering really if you would judge someone on were they live really and maybe avoid your child becoming friends with a another child from a so called bad area.

There are some people who judge, and they are the ones with the problem.

Hearing judgy or non-judgy opinions, especially about others behind their back, is an easy way to weed out who the nice people are, or aren't.

I live on a 'nice estate' and also have the biggest plot size. Neighbours assumed we must be posh but now I get judged by my neighbours when they found out I grew up on a council estate. I get judged at the school gates because I am always in tracky bottoms or leggings and a hoodie (I always go to the gym after drop off) and for the fact that neither me or dh must have a job because we both do the school run most days. Therefore we must be benefit scroungers. We do work, for ourseleves from home.

The people who judge me know very little about me. That's why I couldn't give less fucks. Dd (oldest) has lived with us in some fairly rough areas and I brought her up to not care about these sorts of things either. My friends at the school gates don't give a shit about what I wear or what I do. That's why we have become friends.

Ds (yougest) is naturally not in the slightest bit bothered about anyone else's opinion, not even mine usually which makes him hard work sometimes

My point is op that your son will get judged, if it's not where he lives it will be his choice of coat or bag or hair style or height or weight. Unless twats start keeping their comments to themseleves, which isn't going to happen, you need to teach him how to deal with it.

No I wouldn't judge over that but everyone judges over something. I would focus on avoid the people who would look down on me...

People judge over everything. Being a mom helped me stop giving a shit about people's opinion. I think the major turning point was when someone was giving dirty looks because baby DD was laughing too loud in a family restaurant.

There will never be any winning the approval game. Ever.

Stop caring about it.

People that don't want to hang because you're too x, y, or z are missing out. Their loss really.

Experience tells me that if they don't judge you for one thing then they'll judge for another. Don't bother worrying about it OP.