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AIBU?

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To think this woman should not have brought her child to the Physio Gym

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HearTheThunderRoar · 02/10/2015 06:31

DD (16) had physio today where she goes into a physio gym with lots of equipment for people who are in rehabilitation for injuries.

Today DD went into for her session, upon arrival their was an 8ish girl sitting in front of the mirror (which DD uses to check she has the right alignment) sitting on the balance equipment that DD needs to use for her exercises and using the other as something to put her colouring book on. She had all her colouring pens scattered all over the floor etc. This meant DD could only do half her exercises, bearing in my mind I am paying for DD to have use of this.

Aibu to think the mother should have left her daughter at home or at least told her to get off the equipment??

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LadyLuck81 · 02/10/2015 06:32

Well the mother might not have had a choice but to bring her but why didn't you just ask nicely of the girl could move while your daughter did her exercises? I don't get it.

Penfold007 · 02/10/2015 06:34

Did DD ask this girl to move as she needed to use the equipment?

Spartans · 02/10/2015 06:37

Yanbu really. The mother may not have had a choice but she shouldn't have allowed her dd to be in the way or sit on equipment.

What I don't get is why no one asked her to move herself and her things (nicely). If your dd was alone and didn't feel comfortable doing so, she should have asked the staff.

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HearTheThunderRoar · 02/10/2015 06:39

No DD didn't ask as she said she didn't want to cause trouble and she said she would feel mean.

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LindyHemming · 02/10/2015 06:43

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AuntieStella · 02/10/2015 06:44

I'm wondering why the staff didn't deal with this anyhow.

If she was brought (on a school day) there was probably a compelling reason.

But I've yet to see a physiological practice with no reception/waiting area which is where non-patients would wait.

Penfold007 · 02/10/2015 06:45

A 16 year old really should be able to politely ask someone to move so they can use a piece of equipment. Your post suggests that the 8 year old wad quietly amusing herself but was Sat in the wrong place. Maybe the parent had no childcare and needed rehab too.

Jeffreythegiraffe · 02/10/2015 06:49

You should have asked her to move.

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HearTheThunderRoar · 02/10/2015 06:49

Yes, I agree DD does need an urgent lesson in assertiveness but she's quite shy and hates conflict. The gym's tiny so there would not be much other space for the child to sit in.

Sorry I forgot to mention it's school hols here so the mother probably had no one to babysit her child. Stella your right, the child could have easily sat in reception.

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Whathaveilost · 02/10/2015 06:54

As others have said the parent could have had no choice but to bring her child.
I also thing that your daughter needs to be more assertive. There is no conflict involved in asking an 8 year old to move her colouring books!

TheHouseOnTheLane · 02/10/2015 07:02

YANBU it's not your DD's job to make sure that the gym is properly used! In your shoes I would call the gym and tell the manager what happened and ask that in the future, whoever is in charge sees that this does not happen.

imip · 02/10/2015 07:06

My 8yo uses a physio gym. I have ABSOLUTELY no choice but to bring my other DCs on occasion. I also need to be there for dd. sometimes there is just no option.

justkeeponsmiling · 02/10/2015 07:14

YABU. None of my children would have a problem with asking a younger child to please move out of the way. It would have been a bit of a pain but really no big deal at all. The woman most likely didn't have a choice but to bring her DD

MythicalKings · 02/10/2015 07:20

YANBU. Yes, your DD could have asked but it's the responsibility of the staff to ensure all equipment is available, if the mother isn't supervising properly. Your DD's treatment is just as important as that of the mother of the child.

Senpai · 02/10/2015 07:22

Did DD go there alone? If so, why are you allowing a 16 year old who's not even confident enough to tell a small child to get off the EQ and is injured to be alone? That seems like an awfully vulnerable position for someone to be in. What if someone worse came up and started harassing her? What then?

She really needs to learn how to be assertive before going off to uni where there will be drinking and parties, and she will need to know how to be assertive for her own safety.

But that said, I'd have a word with the staff. It really is their job to make sure the gym is being used correctly and that children aren't using it as their own personal jungle gym.

Mistigri · 02/10/2015 07:26

The issue here isn't that the girl was there but that she was effectively unsupervised around potentially dangerous (if misused) gym equipment.

I astonished that no member of staff said anything, it shouldn't really be up to your dd even if it wouldn't hurt to encourage her to be more assertive.

GloGirl · 02/10/2015 07:40

Yabu, aside from sitting somewhere inconvenient to your daughter she was fine

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone · 02/10/2015 08:42

Yabu

Your DD should be able to ask an 8 year old to please move to allow her to use the equipment. Or to ask a member of gym staff to deal with it.

Crazypetlady · 02/10/2015 08:46

It was inconvenient but she was causing no trouble. Nobody asked her to move. I wouldn't call the manager as suggested as it is petty and the little girl did nothing wrong other than sitting in the wrong place.

Theycallmemellowjello · 02/10/2015 10:46

Good god. 'Someone got in my way today.' 'Did you ask them to move?' 'No, but I do now nurse a strong sense that they and their kind should not be allowed in places where I might have to ask them to move.' Riiight.

LadyLonely1 · 02/10/2015 11:00

I get that the mother might have had no option, but she should have had more consideration for the environment she was in. At 16 yo it's understandable your dd might be shy or not confident enough to ask her to move, I do think she shouldn't have to as her needs come first rather than the 8yo. You are paying for this, maybe have a word with whoever is in charge there about this. They need to monitor the situation better.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 02/10/2015 11:05

YANBU. Staff should have swooped as soon as eight year old started to settle herself on equipment.

LadyLonely1 · 02/10/2015 11:12

In future maybe get your dd to approach a staff member if she feels bad about speaking to a parent or child directly. The mother was really inconsiderate here.

ReallyTired · 02/10/2015 11:13

In my area nhs physio has a very strict no children rule. If you turn up with a child who is not a patient you are sent away. Gyms are dangerous places and eight year olds should not enter a physio gym unless they are relieving treatment.

Viviennemary · 02/10/2015 11:15

Of course this child should not have been sitting in a gym. Her mother should have known better and had more consideration for others. But you should have asked her to move though it shouldn't have been necessary. Why wasn't the child sitting on a chair at the edge of the room instead of getting in people's way. The staff must take some blame for allowing this. Complain to stop it happening again.

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