Hi everyone, I posted many months ago for advice on my mil favouring one of my dc. Quick backstory is that my gorgeous dh passed away 18months ago. Since he died she has been favouring our ds, it got to the point that it was beyond obvious to everyone including our dd and ds. I posted on here for advice and to check what others thought about bringing it up with her. I was a chicken and completely avoided contact with her for 4 months. In the end I did it by text as she had sent me a message asking why I wouldn't allow her gc to see her. In the message I was very kind but firm letting her know that her ds(my dh) would not put up with her favouring one, and that it was effecting my dd etc. Also said that she won't be able to see them until the situation in rectified. She wrote back apologising and saying it is rectified immediately. She did say that she felt like my dd doesn't like her (no shit!) and that due to that she just gave all her attention to my ds. Ds is 13, and dd is 11. I believe she is a narcissist so that explains her thinking. I didn't speak with her about her comment I just left it. Anyway we met up, I told my dd I had spoken to her Gm about the issue. You should have seen my dd she was so happy to have attention and love from her Gm. I would never let her have them unsupervised as she is manipulative, but I think it's important they have a relationship with her regardless as she is still their Gm. Anyway I just wanted to say thank you to everyone that has helped me and given advice. I know we have had an issue with a poster always posting and people spending so much time giving advice for that person to not act on it and just post again and again. I took the advice and used it and our life is better for it, so thank you it is so appreciated