To be pissed off at my friend?

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Long story, will try to shorten.

I've been really ill all week, which means I need to,stay In the house, and can't make DDs harvest festival tomorrow. She has a speaking part, and so do my BFs two DC, who I love as my own. When it became apparent that I really wouldn't be able to make it tomorrow, she promised to bring pick DD up afterwards, bring DD home with my other two "boy" and show me the video she's planning to record. I'd get to see them (a week is a long time for us) and see the video too.

She has been arguing with her DH (who, and I know this sounds weird, is also my bf) all day. Now it transpires that she hasn't told him of our plans for tomorrow and he's taking them out. This alone has pissed me off, but it's not the issue.

She inboxed me to tell me this. Her and my DH have been trying to convince me all day not to go- saying I wouldn't last the service, etc. The only thing keeping me from not crawling down to the church was the fact that I could see them afterwards, we could watch the video together, etc. She knew this.

It's the way she told me. I got three short inboxes. One saying "fuck, he wants to take them out", the second one something along the lines of "why do I have to deal with it all?" And the third similar. No "sorry, I know you were looking forward to it", no "This must feel horrible knowing you're not going to see it after all" etc, etc. I need to also say that I've been a go between all day, calming them both down, etc, even though I feel like crap right now. If that wasn't awkward enough I also work with them.

He's taking the children out for the day, even though they have speaking parts in the harvest festival? Surely not?

Surely she just means you'll not be able to see it right away as she can't come over tomorrow so you'll have to see it later?

If you are ill stop being their go between. They are not 5 and they shouldn't be using their sick friend to be the piggy in the middle like that.

Ok sorry. He's taking the kids out after the service. And bf is best friend in both cases. They were meant to come home afterwards and let me spend some time with the DC, watch the video etc.

Can't you just watch the video latter that evening?

Sorry, after your second post, I'm not sure what the problem is. It seems to be that you'll have to watch the video later than planned? So what?

Are you maybe overreacting a bit due to being ill?

So the thing will still be filmed and afterwards the dad is taking children out?

So you get to see the video later? What's the problem exactly?

Are you seriously that pissed off because you will have to wait to see a video/you've had a nice little plan cancelled? How will your DD get home?

Why have you been a go-between? Why would they need one about this unless their marriage was in tatters?

I can't see the problem. If you're sick, why do you need to hang around with her children anyway?

So, why are you pissed off at your friend? It is not clear.

One of the strangest things I've read on here quite honestly

Why are you upset if it will still be recorded? You sound too involved in your friend and her husband..

So if her DH takes them, he won't record it?

Can't he just record it?

Or have I got the wrong end of the stick...

You are being a total drama queen here. You will see the video just not straight away, get a grip, I'm trying to think of something more constructive to say but I can't sorry, only maybe that you may need to step back a bit, you sound a bit intense, they are both your bf's, love their kids like your own etc, they are a family, if they want to head out after together and show you the video and the kids later I don't get the big deal

Are you more annoyed about the video or not seeing "your boys" (your friends kids) because you haven't seen them in a week

You've overreacted by a country mile.

Things do sound very intense between you and this couple plus their children.

So let me get this straight - the issue is that the DH is taking all the DC out after the Harvest Festival service, rather than coming straight back to your house of germs home so you can see the video of the proceedings with minimal delay and possibly infect their children into the bargain, is that right?

They're still actually taking your DD there, bringing her home again afterwards and still videoing the whole event so you will get to see it at some point?

If that's a fair synopsis then YABU, sorry.

So you are annoyed that your friends kids, dad is taking them out after the festival rather than going to yours? And annoyed your friend wasn't apologetic enough?

Honestly I have no idea what the issue is, they aren't your kids. They aren't like your own, they are your friends kids.

I just find this whole thing a bit odd.

I expect the OP is feeling sorry for herself that she can't go, and now even more sorry for herself because they're all going out to have a good time afterwards instead of rushing to her sickbed to cheer her up, is that it?
I understand you feeling sorry for yourself and wanting to be cheered up, but it's not really your friend's fault you're sick, is it so YA still BU to be pissed off.

YABU. Sorry you're ill, OP, but this is verging on batshit crazy.

Some people just love the drama.

He's your best friend not boyfriend? It all sounds like something and nothing. Can she email you the video so you can see it?

Weird.