to be upset with my friend *sensitive*

[elf0508]

i'm sorry for posting this here I had nowhere else to turn. I apologise if this is long, I don't want to drip feed.

I met up with my friend for dinner, I confided in her that my boyfriend of 3 years sexually assaulted me last night after an argument and her reply was "he probably didn't mean it" so I retorted back "how can you not mean to abuse somebody, did he just fall and his penis slipped into me" she told me to calm down and stop being a drama queen and that I had probably asked for it but was too horny to remember!

I threw my wine in her face and stormed off, I know so childish but I was so embarrased she could have such a response to whhat I just told her

I'm finding it hard to write this using the rights words but my reaction is -
Have you gone to the police?
If not, go to the police.
Get off the computer and ruddy mumsnet. A fallout with your friend is the least of your concerns.

Am I reading this correctly, you are barricaded in a room with a young child and the man who raped you is in the building?

Are you ok OP?

Are you ok OP?

Please get help and find somewhere safe to stay if you can't kick him out.

Op. Please call Women's Aid. They won't involve police unless you want to. They can help immediately if you tell them you are not safe at the moment. You are still in danger, please come back to the thread to let us know you're alright?
Does anyone know this poster in RL? Have any idea of her location?

As above

He raped you, call the police.

Keep yourself safe and I am so sorry your friend isn't a friend.

Your local council will rehouse you if you don't want to stay. Don't let your partner know you are thinking of leaving/kicking him out though.

Yes contact womens aid and/or the police ASAP. I would give your 'friend' the benefit of the doubt if she is friends with your stbeb. Perhaps you surprised her. However I wouldn't share anymore with her in case she reports your movements back to your bf...

We're all worried about you elf! I hope you get help today. ((Hug))

I believe you

I am still here, I don't have much faith in woman's aid. My partner has been violent in the past and when I've tried phoning them they never answered so I left a voicemail but he heard me and broke the landline so then I e-mailed and never got a reply

OP, some practicalities, as it might help people advise:

Do you have children with this man?
Do you own a house with this man?
Do you share your finances with this man?
Do you have access to your own money?

You need to call the police. And you need to get your little boy away from a violent rapist. Who looked after him while you were out with your awful friend? Can you both go there (tell me you didn't leave him alone with your child)
leave him.

Oh op, , your friend is no friend at all, good on you, she deserved every bit of that. Have you gone to the Police, you need to, you need to protect your child from a violent individual.

She's not a friend and I really feel for you. Please continue to try and get in touch with WA or indeed Rape Crisis. What he did is a punishable crime that no-one should ever experience. Continue posting for support.

Can everyone please stop telling the OP that she has to contact the police. It would be great if she's up to it, but it's ok if she isn't.

Thinking of you, elf

Is there anyone at all who you could stay with so that you and your son are safe?

Can everyone please stop telling the OP that she has to contact the police. It would be great if she's up to it, but it's ok if she isn't.

This.

Police are rarely helpful with these sort of things, especially if you're in an established relationship. If you want to, by all means make a report.

But in the mean time I would prioritize your own safety and getting your and DS out.

How are you doing today OP?

Small wonder so many people keep rape to themselves, with idiots like her walking around.
The biggest YNBU. I have ever given anyone!.
I hope this fool is an ex friend now !