It's long so be warned. Been with dh 18 years have 4 beautiful kids. At first she seemed lovely but when I look back I was young and naive. My husband has always been a mammy boy and she thinks the sun shines from his arse. Nothing he does is ever wrong in her eyes. Anyways this past year has been horrendous. I lost my dad and had no support at all from dh. He works for his mam in a family run business. She controls every aspect of our life as we live in her house as part of his wage . She criticises ,puts down everything we do. Nasty jibes constantly . She thinks I'm no good and not worthy of my husband . I have brought up the kids single handily as he works 7 days a week . After I had my children he dumped me and baby at home from hospital and went back to work as she told him he had to. He never had any paternity leave and rarely has a day off. I don't know why I let his mother bother me so much but she really does. Iv walked out and told my husband it's me or her and he just said right let's divorce then . I know he loves the bones of me and it was said in an argument but I do think he would choose his mam over me and kids. He wud rather have a broken family than stand up to her . It's such a long story and I'd love to go into the exact things she has done but I'm scared people will know who I'm talking about. You would be shocked. Anyways I just can't cope with her anymore and I have told Hubby it's her or us ? We are currently living in a rented house in a nearby village . It's a big change for kids but they seem fine. Hubby is angry iv left and says I'm ruining kids lives but I can't live somewhere I'm not welcome or wanted cos I know she hates that I live in the house . She has said many times she wishes me and dh would split up. She wants him all to herself and will stop at nothing till she gets this . My husband is devastated iv left him but he is yet to do anything about it. He is terrified to stand up to her . He has worked since he was 10 years old in the family business and really built it up to a thriving company . He is yet to be made a partner by her . Again control and because she is so so greedy with money that she is terrified to share anything. He has lived by her rules and promise that one day the business will be his so he gets the smallest wage which is less than minimum and works every hour god sends whilst I sit at home alone with kids. Sorry to ramble I'm a just so lost and want him to stand up to her so bad . Has anyone been in similar situation of being controlled so much by mother in law. It's killing me knowing I'm losing the love of my life due to this vile narcassist . I know it's not all in my head either as many people have told me how stupid I am for tolerating her behaviour as long as I did. My dad god rest his soul was told when I first started dating husband that the one person to watch would be his mother as she is "poison" and that was from a supposedly family friend of my husbands family. So it's not just me being petty . Someone please please help and offer advice ? Should I stay firm and not go back and tell husband we either get our own home (he still works for business) and he gets paid a proper wage so he can support his family or we divorce and he stays living by his mams rules