AIBU to want to throttle my neighbour?

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Ok this is a long story but going to try and be thorough but concise in order not to drip feed.

I have been experiencing harassment and noise nuisance from my neighbour for well over a year now.

This has included him doing the following:

Playing loud dance music in his room over my bedroom until the early hours of the morning not one night but consecutive nights.

Loudly banging on the the floor (my ceiling) and slamming doors in the early hours of the morning eg. 3,4 and 5 am.

Blowing on what sounds like a dog whistle on and off through out the day. Thankfully I rarely work from home.

Following me me several occasions in his car and hurling abuse at me or just stareing while slowly driving past.

This has meant that my family is forced to go to bed very late and then woken up very early by him e.g yesterday he woke us up at 4am.

On occasion of desperation we have slept in the living room and we use ear plugs every night.

I have done all the usual things reported to the police, reported to housing, called the noise team and at one point moved out for a period of time as things were escalating and becoming scary all to little or no avail.

Just found out he recently threatened to hurt and kill another neighbour.

I am at me wits end as I don't what else to do. I would appreciate any advise I will very vulnerable as it's just me and my child in here.

Ps. I can't afford to move and rent elsewhere as can't afford private rental. Thanks in advance

Buy a copy of jimmy nails crocodile shoes, the chicken song, itsy bit teeny weeny yellow polkadot bikini, dj a ligatures whistle song, basically THEE single most annoying song you can think of. Wait until he has a stinking hangover, put on annoying song, turn speakers in direction of his home, turn volume up load as it goes, fuck off out for the whole day and smirk.

When I was in my flat I did that. Junkie bastard underneath moved out after a few goes at it

If I had that happening and the Police didn't act, I'd escalate the complaint within the Police force.

Do the police definitely know about the harassment outside your home - the verbal abuse and following you about? Do you actually have a particular police officer as contact for ongoing reports?

And does anyone on here know anything about getting an anti molestation order?

Have you spoken to HA about being rehomed urgently?

Would you consider a council house swap to get out of the area? We see quite a lot of these round here as local HA covers nearly a quarter of the county.

From what you have said I assume both you and he are LA/HA rental. Is he breaking his tenancy agreement in any way?

You have my sympathy, he sounds like a cockend of the highest order.

re swaps, usually because fuel costs are so high in rural area that moving jobs even 20 miles makes it worth the hassle of moving house, not because Wiltshire is particularly big on horrible neighbours!

If you've had contact with the authorities three times in the past 6 mths I think it is, try the Community Trigger. They can review whether effective action's been taken.

In a similar boat to you and a council tenant as are the Neighbours From Hell so you have my total sympathy and best wishes. xxx

Thank you for all the reply's so far, I really appreciate knowing I am not alone. To answer some of the questions.

Yes we are both HA Tenants, they have stated that they will look out for a house swap on my behalf but I have not heard much since.

The police gave him a written warning last time and they do know about the harassment out of the home.

In my view he has broken the tenancy agreement but they keep saying they don't have enough evidence etc.

I would love to make noise etc in return but I have a vulnerable person who lives below me, and anything I did would impact them too.

I would love to get a non molestation order but we live in flats, share a common entrance way and I am scared of potential reaction.

Ha round here have contracts with tenants so if they break the agreement (including anti social behaviour) then they can lose their home. Do you have anything like that?

Document everything with days and times!

If he's had a written harassment warning from the Police, a breach of that means they should arrest him.

Been through this twice, once with a woman and once with a man.
The police DO NOT help, especially if the opposite side makes up that YOU are doing what they are actually doing,
The woman did this to me and she racially abused me, HA did NOTHING, had noise recorders in my flat, recorded her banging on purpose as excessive all they did was write to her and make up another excuse as to why they cannot evict her.
She could play the victim card really well, said i was bullying her, her boyfriend and her child,
yep a young pregnant woman managing to bully 3 people. Sounds legit!
Proper nasty vile woman, when i first moved in she couldn't stop gossiping about the last tenant who lived in my flat, playing the victim with me.
Then i soon found out why he ended up threatening her and use to bang on the ceiling at her.
Proper nasty vile woman, i left because of her, i just hope she gets another male like your neighbor who harasses her, certain people actually deserve to be harassed.
She could pick on me because i was alone.

With the man, HA dont care because of the fact he has never had complaints about him doing this type of thing but then and old lady lived her before and a male so why would he do these things? he followed, walked around naked in the garden trying to signal me when i was in the kitchen, rang my bell nearly everyday i had to disable it, banged on the wall and slammed doors all trying to get a reaction from me.
I even had recordings HA didnt do anything.
Police acted like they cared but they didnt, they kept closing the reports.

I eventually moved
HA dont care about them breaking the tenancy agreement its only effective if you break it.

Its annoying that there are so many homeless people yet these nasty tenants can do what they like and nobody will evict them.

keep doing what you are doing op but tbh nothing will come of it. These tenants that have had complaints should just be put in flats together and the nice people who are actually grateful they have a flat with low rent they can decorate should live together in peace

Katfleas thanks for sharing how did you end up moving in the end. Did they move you?

Sorry for late response he has been banging for last two hours?? And I'm trying to make sure my little one gets some sleep.

I dream of living in a nice detached house with a garden as this is a nightmare but it will never happen. I don't know what else to do really as HA are reluctant to move me. No basis or evidence apparently but I will stay hopeful

i forced the HA to put me onto the management transfer to move, after several letters and getting my MP involved they agreed, it took about 5-6months to find somewhere, i was in band A. I was a single person
They tried to say to me too that they wouldn't move me because apparently my situation wasnt that bad.
You just need to harass them and the fact you have a child will go in your favor. They CAN put you on the transfer list, just they are being arseholes, i wrote to the CEO and my MP.
I know exactly how you feel and what you are going through and they do it because they know HA dont give a shit.

try record something as well, on amazon they have little pen cameras and other discreet cameras, all you need is two pieces of evidence.
You probably wont get a detached house but a garden is likely.

I'd kneecap the fucker and twist his baws off with my powerful fists of female fury.

Whisper in his ear "if you even think of telling anyone, I'll feed them back to you cunt!"

Oh well, failing that would you like a house guest for a bit? I have an alsation who is not into humans (or anything else apart from growling and biting for that matter) who could do with letting off a bit steam

Thanks Katfleas that is really helpful and hopefull to know and thanks cat flap and sprocket but that may make things worse although funny. I have had little to no sleep he deliberately kept us up late and woke us at 4.30

I'd hire someone big and threatening to go round a few times and ask them nicely to be quiet. I really would.

Your lucky to get social housing, it is a real lottery.

I had a year of this. My neighbour threatened to stab my mum, set our flat on fire, burgle us, smash my car up, cut me up on my doorstep. He shouted and screamed at us from inside his flat and repeatedly slammed doors. I called the police but he wouldn't open the door. I recorded his outbursts on my iPhone. I went to the HA who took it seriously and went to court the following day and took out an injunction on him to protect us. He breached the injunction the next day. He was arrested and kept overnight. It didn't make a difference. I was on beta blockers from the dr for tress headaches, DP was on antidepressants, it was causing tension between us at home and we were arguing. I couldn't live, didn't use our garden as I had to walk through his, couldn't vacuum, put washing up away, use washing machine or shower during the day as the neighbour was sleeping and it would wake him. I would tip toe around my flat in slippers.
In the end my DP flipped when the neighbour opened his door with a knife in his hand when he walked past and got arrested. DP was on bail and not allowed back home and I had to stay there on my own sat although HA advised me to stay with my parents in case of reprisals, they were saying it wasn't safe to stay there but would not move me or the neighbour. In the end I contacted the local MP who got us emergency rehoused within 4 weeks.
DP had to go to court and got into a lot of trouble for what he did, which I don't condone but I can see why it happened as we were pushed to the limit.
Do everything you can to get moved. Keep a diary, record what you can. Speak to your local HO and MP.
We found out that we were the third tenants to be moved from our flat due to the behaviour of this person. They said they won't move him as they don't want to put him into another community and disrupt it

Hi OP,

I once had neighbours like this, all night parties on a sunday, meaning that I had to call in sick to work as I'd literally not had a minute's sleep. Throwing dog shit in my garden etc. It was really awful, and I completely sympathise with your murderous thoughts. After all, these sorts of neighbours make our lives hell! Our solution came through my local authority's antisocial behaviour unit. They were absolutely brilliant. If you have one, I would suggest giving it a go.

Hi all thanks for the replays and so sorry to hear some of your stories they are really awful but shows how common this is. Yes social housing is a lottery and I am really blessed to have this place he is the only fly in the ointment. I have a meeting with housing tomorrow so wish my luck. Ps. Sorry for the delay in responding but he has given us a rough few days and nights . But I intend to stay hopefull

pinkie1982 just wanted to say your story is horrific but I have a feeling my HA either can't or don't want to do anything about this person