to not tell XH I'm remarrying?

[HellKitty]

We don't get on. We split up officially 9 yrs ago, divorced recently due to financial ties (house). DCs are mid to late teens, see him twice a year where all he does he slag me off and go to the pub - they don't want to see him again. When he'd pick them up he'd glare at me, nothing else. DP and his car would be at work or out at pick up/drop off times.

I've been with DP for 5 years and we're getting married. XH doesn't even know I've been seeing anyone. XH is a bully to women and children, until they get taller than him and/or answer back. He would literally shit himself if he saw DP.

No mutual friends, he has no friends. I think he's still pretending to the bank and tax office that we're married.

So. What would you do and AIBU?

[HellKitty]

Yikes!
No, all financials are sorted, much to my solicitors disgust I refused to go for spousal maintenance and half his pensions. He can sit there counting his money till the cows come home as far as I care!

[Murfles]

I never told my ex. The way I saw it was my life was nothing to do with him. We had no financial ties and he couldn't be arsed turning up for contact with DD so I left him to his own devices. When he tried to crawl back into our lives 10 years later he was gobsmacked that I'd remarried and that DD wanted nothing to do with him. He crawled back under his stone after that.