Early morning alarms

[MrsDeathOfRats]

Dp gets up at 3.30. His alarm sounds and he gets up immediately. It doesn't disturb either me or DS.

Upstairs NDN is obviously supposed to get up at 4am. But hurt alarm is clearly their phone (most people's are nowadays!) and it must be on a bedside unit or on be floor and it vibrates. It buzzes and buzzes and buzzes. For better part of an hour.
It wakes me. This is an old style high rise. Floors and ceilings are thick concrete here. He hear little noise from upstairs usually, occasional tantrums or parties that's it.

This alarm wakes me and then I often can't return to sleep.
There's not really much I can do is there?
WIBU to knock on the door at 4.10 and ask to join in with coffee and breakfast?

Worth a try, Mrs.

It might be just the hint to get your neighbour to move his phone to say, under his pillow. Better still, as soon as it wakes you, get up and go upstairs and knock on his door until he answers . After a couple of mornings of this he will definitely move his phone somewhere you won't hear it.

Keep us posted how you get on...

Could you try ear plugs?

I would maybe pop a note in their door. Yhey may just not realise it is affecting you.

I would have a very polite word. If sound insulation is generally so good he will have no clue that he's disturbing your sleep.

I would ask them to move it. I'm sure they don't realise it can be heard.

During daylight hours. Or a v polite note if you're not sure when he sleeps.

I feel your annoyance, the guy out backs alarm goes off at 5.30 and he lets it go off for ages. He also leaves his curtains and windows open all night and sleeps with his light on so with the angle of the houses our bathroom is lit up like a christmas tree, our bedroom would be too if it wasn't for our blackout blinds! Dh had considered posting a note through the door to his parents but the alarm thing seems to have stopped so we will leave it for now.
A note may work as he may not know how much the noise travels.

I'd just mention it! My phone has always been on vibrate on my bedside table and it wasn't until we moved to an actual house that I realised how the sound traveled.

Assuming there's no other issues, just ask, I'd be mortified if mine was waking you up like that!

Do have a word - our neighbour's alarm was waking us up early and DH popped around and mentioned it to her. She clearly didn't want to cause any offence, got another alarm and checked with us we couldn't hear it!

You can't leave an alarm on for an hour, that's awful.

I'd post a note and if 8t still continued I would honestly knock on their door at 4.15 yes.

You can buy bracelets that vibrate to wake you up silently- some are cheap at around £10! Maybe buy one of these and take it round with a bottle of wine? Would be £20 well invested if it brings you more sleep.

I had a neighbour who thought it was fine to stand and rev the engine of his motorbike at 4.30am to warm it up. He then left it running for another 30mins whilst I guess he for breakfast. It woke me and our DS when he was only a few months old. After a month I calmly spoke to his other half as I could never seem to catch him. She was a right bitch about it so I told her if it continued I'd bring my squealing son over for them to deal with LOL! It stopped!! Ha ha I'd wouldn't have done it but obviously the threat was enough!!

I still use a little round clock with metal bells on the top as an alarm clock. It looks very decorative and it does the job!

But I wouldn't want it to wake up other people as well, and I would be happy for a neighbour to tell me if there was a problem.

He genuinely might not here it. Earthquakes wouldn't wake me.

mermaid - I bought one called the xiaomi mii band. It is from China, and it is a very basic fitness band. It counts your steps and it monitors your sleep and it wakes you up and that's about it. However, it does only cost £10-12 (depending on where you buy it). Step tracking is reportedly as accurate as on many more expensive devices.

I've fought shy of expensive fitness monitors as lots of them are just glorified pedometers at a hefty price tag, but this little thing does everything I need for a fraction of the price!

Ok thanks all.
Seems it wouldn't be unreasonable to go and ask them politely to move it.

I'll wait til DP comes home so I don't have to take DS (only 1) up with me just incase t doesn't go well!

DP does have to get up at 3.30 every day except Sunday. But he usually finishes work by 2, is home by 2.30/3 and then he gets lots of time with the beasts children and family dinner before all 3 of them go off to bed between 7-8pm.... It is exhausting for him but it works. Until I finish studying and get a decent income anyway!!

Thanks for relies and shove that bracelet thing sounds awesome! I'm off to find one of Ebay!

I would just politely let him know. But if the ringing also bothers you there may not be much he can do.
I find it hard to wake up and my alarm can ring for an hour before I get up.

As your DH is up at 3.30, has he left by 4? Because he could ring your NDN's doorbell on the way out and say it could be his new alarm call

LOL greenhill that is not a bad idea!!

It's been 2 mornings since I wrote the original post. I haven't heard the alarm upstairs.

So, I'm now convinced upstairs NDN is a mumsnetter!!
So thanks for moving it without a confrontation, whoever you are

That's a good outcome.
Vibrating phones through floors are a nightmare.
Let's hope the peace continues.