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finlandstation84 · 26/09/2015 20:22

So background. We have 3dc. 10 8 and 2. I have always been pretty much a sahm bar a bit of Avon type work (maybe 12 hours per month but would like to do more). Dh has always worked full time in well paid jobs. With only 2 school school aged dc I had quite an easy time and was able to deal with all childcare, run the home etc. Dh did rare diy and garden although just bare minimum. I have had to pick up some gardening. Upon the birth of our 3rd child little changed. As a result I feel stressed. Middle child has some sen and toddler is a handful. Dh has been stressed at work so has been no help to me at all.
So dh recently inherited some money. Eventually we will have enough to pay mortgage of and maybe 100k and have already had a 15k advance. So dh decided this was the perfect time to resign from his 4k per month job. He left one week ago, He has said he deserves a break as he has permanently worked. Not sure whaat looking after home and dc is.
During the 1st week he did some much needed diy and of course job searched but little more. So going forward I was going to suggest that my work is equivalent to his job searching and everything else should be split 50/50. This will give me more time to build up my business which has taken a back seat.
Does this seem fair?
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RB68 · 26/09/2015 20:28

Me I would be pushing for him to do the lot and be off out the door for some ft work meself. What you are suggesting is more than fair and in fact I think probably still not giving you enough time given he is only job hunting not actually working - why give up the job if he wants another one anyway - why not just take a sabbatical or something

finlandstation84 · 26/09/2015 20:48

He was unhappy with changes at work. It was making him stressed and life is too short etc etc.

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