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To be worried about this (possibly tmi)?

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Timeforanamechangey · 26/09/2015 16:38

Have NC'd as quite embarrassing Blush

DP is *ahem generously proportioned and quite enthusiastic in bed.

The other day we were having sex and afterwards I was in the most awful pain. We didn't do anything out of the ordinary just straight PIV - occasionally I have some discomfort afterwards in the 'you've poked me just a little bit too deep/hard' kind of way but nothing like this before. It felt like there was something seriously going on with my pelvic floor as the whole area hurt front to back, it was agony to go to the loo after and I had shooting pains going up through my lower abdomen and fanjo for hours, lasting until even the next day.

In 2013 I had some treatment for an abnormal smear result and now I'm worried this could be related to that. Could it? Or is it more likely DP was just a bit too vigorous and needs to be a bit more gentle? Should I make a GP appointment or am I just being overly dramatic?

Sorry to ask but I'm too shy to talk about this kind of stuff to anyone in RL!

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Sparklingbrook · 26/09/2015 16:46

I think in order to put your mind at rest make a GP appointment. Not dramatic at all given your medical history.

Silvercatowner · 26/09/2015 16:48

Go to your doctors. Honestly, they will have seen it all before.

horsewalksintoabar · 26/09/2015 16:51

Definitely make that appointment. You had an abnormal smear 2 years ago (could be for a reason as simple as a yeast infection, so don't freak). But the pain you are describing seems a bit OTT. Get a smear.

horsewalksintoabar · 26/09/2015 16:53

Oh sorry OP. Reread your post. You had treatment 2 years ago following abnormal smear. I wouldn't panic
But do get checked out. Flowers

Curiouserandcuriouser30 · 26/09/2015 16:55

I would also go to the GP. It could be something completely innocent, but for your peace of mind it should be checked out. Also if it continues to hurt when you have sex you might get put off, and that would be a shame! Definitely get checked.

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Timeforanamechangey · 26/09/2015 16:56

I've heard somewhere that you can't 'request' smears as such and that you can only have them when it's time for your routine check ups, is this true?

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MsJamieFraser · 26/09/2015 16:57

YES YES YES!

A friend of mine has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer Sad and it kicked me in the arse to go this week to get my smear, which I did, but only after 4/5 years since my last!

I'm not saying this to scare you, far from it, but really you need to get sorted. PIV sex should not cause this discomfort.

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Timeforanamechangey · 26/09/2015 16:57

Yes I am a bit put off! Honestly, the pain was so bad I'm a bit scared for it to happen again.

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Sparklingbrook · 26/09/2015 16:59

Yes, you can't request a smear Time. But you can ask for a referral to a Gynaecologist.

sproketmx · 26/09/2015 17:11

I would get it checked just incase but one of my friends gets something like that after sex and I think she said it was cystitis that caused it. Basically get it checked because it could be nothing but better to be safe than sorry. Also at different times in my cycle I find it feels different. Like it feels like he's been too deep just after ovulation

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Timeforanamechangey · 26/09/2015 17:15

Ah, that's reminded me, I have a mirena so I don't have periods anymore (none for 7yrs) so could that be a factor?

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sproketmx · 26/09/2015 17:24

Is the mirena put in the same as the copper coil? I had extreme pain when my copper one was accidentally displaced when I was a teen. They only found out when they took it out because my cervix is far back and tilted anyway so it looked ok

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Timeforanamechangey · 26/09/2015 17:30

Yes as far as I know it is put in the same way, It's never been displaced afaik but I guess if I ask them they'll check.

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Charis2 · 26/09/2015 17:31

You definitely need to get this checked out. it could be any number of things, all of which can be treated.

MillionToOneChances · 26/09/2015 17:38

I would guess a mirena somewhere it shouldn't be, but definitely get it checked out.

Ilovetorrentialrain · 26/09/2015 17:43

OP now you've mentioned the coil I'm inclined to think it's possibly related to that.

I had a copper one which was fractionally (millimeters it seemed on the scan!) out of place and the pain was awful.

I wonder if your coil could have been disturbed in some way during sex?

In any case don't worry, just get an appointment to be checked over.

All the best.

Iusedtobeapenguin · 26/09/2015 17:59

op sounds similar to something I have had. It's called SPD or symphysis pubic dysfunction and it caused me to have hideous sharp pains in my pubic area in late pregnancy. It went after my dc were born but occasionally comes back if dh and I have had a particularly vigorous session Blush

It's horrible when it happens, fucking agony actually Sad

boysarethebest · 26/09/2015 19:00

Was it really deep pain across your lower belly and back? I had this and saw gynae, had ultrasound and they reckoned was endo or the ovarian cysts I had
It seems to have resolved but on waiting list for laparotomy? to look for endometriosis.

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Timeforanamechangey · 27/09/2015 19:16

It was deep pain across my pelvic floor and up through my abdomen, nothing in my back. Thanks for the replies, will try to get a GP appointment and get it looked at!

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Junosmum · 27/09/2015 20:25

You need to get it checked out, but it's entirely possible it's 'just' a bruised ovary. Yep, seriously. OH did to me once, really sodding hurt but I was ok, and I'm now pregnant so didn't do any lasting damage - it was to do it his proportions and the angle of a particular thrust!

Pico2 · 27/09/2015 20:29

I was going to say he hit an ovary. I think it's like kicking a guy in the balls, just far less common as they are safely tucked away. But get it checked out.

Prettyeyedpiratesmile · 27/09/2015 20:42

Please get it checked out. Your doctor won't bat an eyelid at hearing you talk about sex with your DP.

Can I ask a silly question though? What does PIV sex mean?? Hmm I'm fairly new on here Grin

bettyberry · 27/09/2015 20:53

Prettyeyedpiratesmile Penis in vagina. Basically standard sex.

Prettyeyedpiratesmile · 27/09/2015 22:16

Thanks betty Smile

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 27/09/2015 22:22

I would guess he has bruised you.
My bastard ex used to do it a lot Sad

Give it a couple of days, if it improves, then it was nothing major.

If it stays the same o gets worse, then it will need checking.

If your doc is anything like ours, if you make an appt first thing tomorrow, they will see you in a couple of weeks... So while you are waiting, keep an eye on things.

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