To ask if anyone ells has a 12 year old in pajama pants

[MyName70]

My DS1 has never been dry at night. For years I have been told by GPs, friends, incontinent specialist that it is common and he will grow out of it. Now at the age of 12 I'm worried that it is no longer 'common' and he should have grown out of it. We have tried alarms, lifting, not wearing pull ups but none of it makes any difference. Desmopressin works for sleepovers but after a couple of nights he starts wetting the bed again. Other than this he has never had a dry night. It happens every night like clockwork. In the morning his pj pants are full if not leaking, their is no reduction in the amount of urine he is producing.

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My sister wet the bed until her mid teens - she did eventually grow out of it. At a similar age my parents had tried all sorts but with no success. Eventually the GP told them that the alarm etc hadn't worked because she was still too young. IIRC they used an alarm again when she was 14/15 and it worked. She's now nearly 40 and hasn't had any issues since.

Also wet beds at school (up to age 12/13 when I came home again) were more common than not in our boarding house - at least half the girls in each dormitory were bed wetters.

No experience other than friends with slightly younger kids having the same issue but just wanted to mention the ERIC website on the small chance you've not used it, and guessing you've increased fluids in the day ++ to train the bladder to hold more?

Sorry OP must be very hard for you both.

Yes, finally been referred to enuresis clinic. Have brolly sheets to make it less difficult and have lots of tips to try from clinic but essentially its a waiting game:

My DS was the same. Then puberty kicked in, he started producing the relevant hormone and overnight dry with no further problems. It is simply a waiting game in some cases.

I agree brolly sheets are great.

What are brolly sheets?

Brolly sheets

Thanks Piccalilli. I just use pampers disposable bed mats. Tbh his pull ups don't leak that often so I am reluctant to invest in high quality bed mats.

I don't blame you they seem v expensive! I've never used them was just interested in the comments above and had a look on Amazon. Hope things settle with time.

I'm grateful for the advice and they are the sort of thing I would use if he was trying without pull ups. However for the moment he prefers pajamas pants because he can just take the wet ones off first thing and put them in his special bin.

Ds is 11 and still wet most nights. We have been seeing a consultant every 6 months or so but they are comfortable there's not an underlying reason so we just see the enuresis clinic nurse now. Ds has desmopressin which he can take and is about 90% reliable, but we're having a break at the mo and using pull ups too.

We're tried alarms but they make no difference - DS sleeps right through them!

We are really just in waiting game mode ... It's very frustrating!

MyName, I'm not sure where you live, but I know that at the Evelina children's hospital in London, they are using tens machines to stop bed wetting. My DS1 is 9 and has never been dry at night - we're using an alarm and desmopressin at the moment, but not really getting any improvement yet. Our enuresis nurse says they use the tens machines mainly with teens, and so my DS1 is a bit young maybe to be referred there right now, but it might be worth asking your GP or enuresis nurse if any hospitals near you are using /trialling the same thing. Apparently they have already been using tens machines in other countries with some success. I'm afraid I don't really know anything more about it though!

My DD has only just gone dry at night (14.5yrs). She wasn't reliably dry during the day until 10yrs, (unstable bladder). When she started her periods back in January we started to notice an improvement. We had tried everything - desmo, alarms, bladder training etc. (nothing worked).
Good luck, we felt we were the only family going through this, though now I know how common this is - it's just not spoken about.

Can I ask posters to be wary.The OP has no posting history and there is a history of threads about older children in nappies, where the poster turns out to be not all they seem.

What level of desmopressin is he on? Because DS is still having accidents (8 yrs old) and I suspect the Paediatrician will increase the level at his next appointment. She said it will continue to go up (although I don't know if there's a maximum level, he's on 240), and when he is consistently dry for 6 weeks they will try to bring it down one level, if he has accidents then it goes back up again.

240 is the maximum for the desmo, afaik. It doesn't work for everyone.

One of mine is ten and still in pull ups at night. Anecdotally I have several friends who wet until their early teens.

I got stressed about it recently as he went on a four night residential with school, but he's home now, and thanks to a bathroom bag with secret compartments, and a very baggy onesie, he managed without incidence, even though he was wet most nights. The pull ups fit great and absorb everything, so we're just carrying on as we are without the stress of any outside help.

MakeItACider He is also on 240 of desmopressin.

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IKEA do a good reusable mattress protector for £5.