To want to stop my DP smoking fags?

[EdithSimcox]

She gave up 12 years ago. Has just bought a pack. Going in the garden now. Anything I can say to stop her? Or should I butt out? (No pun intended)

What's happened to make her?

Want to stop, no not unreasonable. However, it's her choice, you can't stop her (as long as she realises you might not go near her when she smells of smoke). Any particular reason she's started up after so long? What's made her 'crack'?

Pity shes not male as id tell her she lose her man hood. Might have outed myself with my fav story. Please mn others dont ask for full story. . Ok...does she like her face to look good, does she like to smell nice as every smoker stinks to a non smoker even if they think she doesnt. Tbh...unless your dp wants to give up nothing will make her. Sorry op. Shes an adult so her choice re what she wants to do..

Months of stress (between us).

Find out what has triggered her sudden desire to take it up again, work together to eliminate whatever it is without focussing on the 'giving up' part so much as the 'how can I help' part. Or wait until tomorrow when she feels like her lungs have been through a cheese grater and decides never to fall off the wagon again (disclaimer - this is what did it for me after a drunken relapse, results are not guaranteed!).

Yeh. She's an adult, I get that. So now we'll need rules about not in front of the DC etc etc. Oh god, how tedious, another thing to argue over.

Sorry op re the adult comment but sadly its true. Smoking is my bug bear working nhs and seeing and treating the end result...buts its still an another adults choice so has to be respected how their damage their body...

Is she doing it to get to you?

Sounds like the smoking is the least of the issues at the moment. If things are bad enough that she's started up again after 12 years, obviously 'just wanting her to stop' is not deal with any underlying problems. I'm sure plenty will be along to say what a 'disgusting habit' it is, but perhaps the focus should be on how to talk to your wife and leaning new coping tenchinques to deal with the obvious stress in your lives, instead of trying to get her to stop for the moment.

End not and result...i do lve seeing patients outside the wards lighting up after their leg has been removed etc...but their choice...

There's nothing you can do really, other than try to get her to see common sense.

If she's still smoking in a few days and appears to regret it, you could try buying her an E.Cig.

That might help to nip any cravings in the bud.

I second the ecig. I was like 30 a day at worst point. Now on the ecig and only ever smoke real fags if I've had a drink and am with other smokers.

I also thought she was doing it to make a point. I personally couldn't share a house with a smoker, let alone a relationship. For me it'd be the end. Is that where this is going?

I third the e-cig

Ive not smoked for years thanks to this

Get a good make, I reccomend the Kanga mini pro tank. She'll prefer it to real fags, it doesn't smell, it's miles cheaper and no health issues.

Address the relationship issues, not the smoking.