Is this ride?

[cariadthebaird]

My driving instructor booked a lesson with me at 7 this morn. It's my eighth lesson. I've always been on time to the others, not cancelled and v flexible when he changes time at the last min or is up to 15 min late.

I was sick at half 6 this morn so texted him to let him know at about quarter to and apologise. My text was polite but maybe a but incoherent cos of the time of morning. I apologised for short notice and he replied saying he'd seen it in time. Nothing else. I then wrote phew or something similar and he made a comment as to how it was tight timing, no get well etc

Is it just me or this is a bit rude???

I'm pretty sure she will charge as that is policy

I couldn't really have texted much earlier and this is the first time it has happened

FFS thread title should read "IS THIS RUDE", unintentional driving pun!!!!

Is it rude that your driving instructor didn't say 'get well soon'?

No.

No nicknacks, sorry I meant is it rude that he was so terse in his reply

Doesn't sound rude to me really.

I don't think it's rude.

I know it was unavoidable but if I had got up to do a lesson so early and it was cancelled I would be a bit pissed off.

Still not rude.

Ok perhaps I'm being unfair. The 7am was at his request (I'm free all day!!) and the last time we had one he was 15 min late. Perhaps that is colouring my view. Just thought he could have been a bit kinder given that I normally/always cut him some slack and he will probably be charging anyway

No I don't think it is, he's a driving instructor not a friend.

Ok unanimous Aibu I accept my fate guys

I had a boss like this, I called in sick a couple of times and it was always When do you think you'll be back? Let me know ASAP. Bye. I always felt a bit especially when one time I ended up being admitted to hospital! So while it's not essential for him to say Get Well soon, it does seem abrupt not to!

That's annoying of your boss alittle! I think it's just the principle isn't it, you've always been polite and fair to them so wish they would give you the benefit of the diubt

I think texts/emails have to be taken at face value and imho your driving instructor was just to the point and factual. Not rude to keep it purely factual in a professional or business context, nobody is obliged to add 'fluff' for want of a better word.

Any written communication is read in your own voice so you have to be careful of adding emphasis or tone that is completely your own frame of mind. By that I mean you cancelled (quite reasonably btw) but cancelling usually makes people feel bad and expect an annoyed response = you reading anything but the most overtly transparently scripted response with a tone your bracing yourself for, intended or not.

Hope you feel better soon though