to dislike socialising?

[dontcallme]

In my teens and 20's I did try but to be honest it never felt natural or enjoyable to socialise with a big group of people, in fact I hated it. I felt felt self conscious and like I was going though the motions of partying. Even if I took a drink I felt like I was locked in a room watching myself do things rather than feeling present in the moment or having fun. I lost a couple of boyfriends, one I really loved because of my hermit like nature and was very lucky to meet my husband who is a recluse like me!

I hate to be on display or under any kind of scrutiny and even for my wedding we eloped because I felt getting married in front of people would be like a pantomime.

I generally just prefer to be alone or to have the company one one other person. I do of course attend family stuff because I have to but I hate every minute of it.

I am actually a happy and easy going person and not unfriendly if I met you but I just can't stand gangs of people all at once.

Sometimes I do feel I have or am missing out but I did try and I hated it, couldn't wait to get home to my own bed and the peace and quiet of home.

Is this so bad?

No, it's fine. Just do what makes you happy.

You're introverted. It's fine.

I hate people too

No, it's great! Knowing who you are and playing to your strengths is important for having a happy life.

YANBU. I am exactly the same, I'm from a huge family so I'm sort of used to hectic social situations and I can cope well with it and hold my own but I really feel it when I get home, I feel drained! I'm actually up now an hour before everyone else just soni can have some alone time and have a cuppa in leave before the mad morning rush starts.

Nothing wrong with liking your own company, its when you don't like it you have problems

I'm exactly the same. You're not missing out because you don't enjoy the thing you aren't doing. It's all fine!

Everyone is different. I need to see and spend time with people as much as possible- I feel down if I've not met up with people a few times a week but my oh could happily be on his own for a while before he wanted to see friends. Just differebt strokes...

Yanbu, trying to be someone you're not will make you unhappy.

Interestingly enough I always come out as an extrovert on personality tests but I don't really enjoy gatherings that much where I don't know anyone. It's a lot of work making small talk with people you are probably never even going to see again.

Enjoy being the introvert that you are. I'm the same as you. I love seeing friends on a one to one basis or in small groups, but parties scare the shit out of me and I lose the power of speech! I can recommend a good book. It's called Quiet: the power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking, by Susan Cain.

Also, I think it's a gift to be able to enjoy your own company. Some extroverts can't cope with it.

No of course there's nothing wrong with not enjoying groups or feeling on display, many people don't.

I'm exactly the same. People exhaust me.

Glad you found your own way op.

I'm even "worse" than you, OP.
I live alone and love it!

Hell is other people.
And who tells us to socialise? Other people.

Not in the least unreasonable. I remember seeing a Natiinal Trust ad for a temporary hermit for one of its properties and being wildly attracted to the idea, until DH pointed out it would involve sitting in my picturesque cave/folly being photographed by tourists. Plus my toddler said he wanted to come...

I am much the same.

For the record, I can and do socialise when I really have to, but I am a home-buddy. I am also fine in a work situation because I enjoy my job and so I get on with it. Other than that though, I just enjoy my own company over and above all else and that is what I would naturally choose.

I have never been one for large groups of friends. It just isn't me at all. I don't do parties, and you just couldn't even pay me to go clubbing.

Don't worry. You are not a freak. There is nothing wrong with being the way you are.

Hello.
I am an introvert / hermit but my partner is extremely outgoing. We go out for family meals ( his family - cousins, etc ) and lots of meals with his friends and I dislike all of it!
I just find it an immense effort to sit and make conversation for two hours with people I am not especially close to.
I am even a bit like this with my own parents & siblings at meet-ups.
The downside of being introverted is sometimes feeling lonely. Boo! Can’t have it all I guess.