To book myself into a hotel for a couple of nights just to get some rest?

[Skullyton]

I have a LOT going on, between supporting my family through a load of crap, trying to deal with my DS who is autistic and also has adhd, spd and dyspraxia and DOES NOT SLEEP and all the fun his complex needs have created at school (already been excluded for 24hrs after a mishandled meltdown) i am just about done in.

Tuesday morning i hit the point of "i cant do this any more" and DH told me he was going to book me into a little cottage we went to a couple of months ago by myself

I of course said, dont be silly, i'm fine, just having a little meltdown of my own, its all good.. but i'm wondering if i did the right thing.

My only caveat would be i'd prefer a local hotel, rather than the self catering cottage, i can still please myself, use the internet...etc, but there is a restaurant, lol.

Would it be weird to be sitting in a hotel restaurant by myself two nights running?

and yes, we can afford it, so money isnt the issue, its more... i kind of feel guilty.

Do it. Your DP clearly realises you need a break so is supportive.

Do it.

Do it!!! Your DH supports you to, you need a rest, why wouldn't you? You'll be better for it :-)

Don't feel guilty YANBU

Find a hotel, book it and have a nice rest.

but wash the cups in the room before using them ;)

I dream of doing this! Go for it if you've got the chance; everyone needs a chance to recharge from time to time :)

Do it. Your DP is awesome. (I'm sure you are too) x

Look, just do it, you are no good to your family if your burnt out. I went away for a night by myself before the long holidays. Bliss!!

It sounds great, although I'd be lying in bed with a takeaway and a bottle of wine instead of rattling around a restaurant on my own.

Fab idea, go for it and sleep, read, rest and recharge.

Do.it.

I work in a Hotel and midweek we are FULL with lone travellers who stay for work etc. It is commonplace to dine alone in the Restaurant (most have a Kindle etc), and the Bar is full of people who do this regularly for work.

Make sure its one with a pool / jacuzzi etc!

What are you waiting for? Do it!

when i was really upset by something i went to a cottage up in scotland by myself itwas actually reall really nice.
i got takeaways to eat, cottages are nicer than hotels i think as you aren't so obvious

do it. I would if i were not solely responsible for the dcs dealing with crap from schools is exhausting.

Do it.

Go ahead. It's important you look after yourself too. I've stayed in hotels and eaten out by myself, it's not that bad.

Yes, meltdown resulted in him punching a TA.

Ds is able to articulate he's getting upset, they recognise that before he gets past the point of no return, and he is allowed to go to their calm room and sit and relax, and then come back to the classroom when he's ready.

What they haven't cottoned onto, is that just because he has backed off from meltdown, doesn't mean he is completely calm, and twice now they have started doing whatever just set him off, the minute he walks back into the classroom.

The trouble is, that second time, we dont get a warning, he goes from 'calm' to meltdown instantly, its like a snap response, and if he cant run, he will lash out.

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I went abroad for a long weekend on my own last month for this exact reason. 4 days on my own did me the world of good. I went to a couple of really good restaurants too, sat on my own with a good book and a bottle of wine. It was bliss.

Just do it.

can I come too?

Do it my H dos dimilar for me recently it was amazing. Really amazing

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Skullyton, 2 years ago I took myself off to a hotel (for only 1 night, should have taken 2 in retrospect) as I was worn out with DH being away for a full forthnight every month, DD and her needs (Aspie, ADHD) and dealing with an au pair constantly "in my space" at home (not bad APs just never having "my space" at home to retreat to). And sleep deprivation, and having massive responsibility without being a single parent, and changing routines every 2 weeks, and a constantly relentlessly driving cycle of drudge (oh, and working FT as well).

I swam, I had a massage, I had a facial, I read 8 chapters of my book in peace (including a couple with a G&T in hand in hotel bar), I ate a nice meal that was still hot when I ate it, and had a hot bath that the water didn't run out while I was filling. I came home utterly refreshed.

If your DH is happy to cover you, GO!!!!!!

Do it.