Hi everyone, I am new on here, and need some help with something that I can’t talk about easily in real life.
I have a brilliant, clever, confident, happy 2 year old daughter. I took 12 months maternity with her, and then my husband took 6 months off with her, and then she started going to a childminder at 18 months (though she has mostly only been going once a week, because I went on maternity leave with my baby boy shortly afterwards).
The problem is, from day one at the childminders, she wasn’t pleased to see me when I picked her up. She seemed indifferent to me on day one, and after that she sometimes cried and struggled to get down and said “no” when I wanted to pick her up at home time. It broke my heart. After a while she got better and was pleased to see me, but this has been happening again just lately.
The trouble is, I have been researching online, and some articles say that this is a sign of an insecure attachment. I can’t get this out of my head, and it is making me so sad. I have loved and cared for her every day, and I don’t know why she would have an insecure attachment. My husband says she only acts like this because she wants to stay and play because she is so confident and loves people, but I am still worrying. What did I do wrong, and how can I move on if I have ruined our attachment already? I am due to go back to work soon and I can’t face this upset everyday. She is really loving at home.
Thank you for reading all this!