DD is 3 and 2 months.
She dropped her daytime nap about 2 weeks ago. Admittedly the afternoons can be hard work and are often stressful as she is tired by that point.
She wakes around 7/8am. Goes to bed at 8pm.
When she napped she was going to bed at 8, but fussing and creating until 9. She would then wake between 6/7am.
Since we cut out the nap she goes to bed and sleeps easily and al night long.
Today dp has had a day off and personally I think this has changed Dd's behaviour as she has acted up from the moment she woke up but he is insistent that it's cos she doesn't nap anymore.
He has also made a sly dig about me by saying 'you want her to sleep at 8 so you can have you time to relax' but it was said in a nasty way.
I need some time between the kids going to bed and myself going to bed to be alone and do something for myself before bed. He endlessly mocks this. He is implying I'm putting my needs before her need to nap.
But up u til 2 weeks ago I was fighting her during the day to nap.
So AIBU by not insisting that DD have a nap?