To let DS 4 go trick or treating as a witch?

[BathshebaDarkstone]

He's asked for a witch costume and picked one out. DH has reluctantly agreed, he thinks that wearing dresses will turn him gay. I've never seen any boys around here trick or treating in "girls' " costumes, would I be setting him up for piss-taking?

Why would he get ribbed or teased? He's a four year old child.

mileend DH might be homophobic but I blame his age and upbringing, also he has good reason which I shan't go into here because it's me posting, not him. I really just wanted to know what was best to do for DS.

There is no good reason or justification for being homophobic.

I understand why a DH would be uncomfortable. But this is a costume, not like he's wearing a dress to school. So nothing wrong with it.

He has 'good reason' to be homophobic? WTH OP??
My 86 year old grandfather is fine with LGBT community despite his age, so I am guessing your DH is 100+

There is no good reason for anyone to be homophobic. What would happen if your son is gay?

Being fine with LGBT community is not the same as wanting your child to join it.

'Join it' ffs sake its not a fucking club or some part time hobby.
Jesus!

Well Halloween is all about dressing up as something you're not.

My friend dressed up as a hot-dog last year. She seems fine so far.

Oh man, this is getting better and better.

Being fine with LGBT community is not the same as wanting your child to join it.
Its not a cult that people just decide to join. People don't just wake up and decide to they're straight/gay. I wouldn't care if my son was gay/trans because I'm a decent human.

O.p let your son wear what he wants. Your OH is the arse there is no justifiable reason for being homophobic or enforcing gender rolls.

Being fine with LGBT community is not the same as wanting your child to join it.

It's not like joining the circus or joining Scientology you know.

Why are some people so fucking rude? If the thread is boring to you move on and take your bitchiness elsewhere.

Right rant over. Let him wear it, your done may turn out gay he may not, but if he does it won't be the fault of a fancy dress outfit. But yes, please don't make excuses for homophobia.

*your son.

but I blame his age and upbringing, also he has good reason which I shan't go into here because it's me posting, not him.

Yeah, ok

The only thing I can assume you would be referring to would be him being sexually abused in the past by "a gay man"? If that's the case, you need to tell him he wasn't abused by a gay man, he was abused by a pedophile. They're totally different.

Any other possibly justification you could come up is even more nonsense than the above.

nataleejah, if you're not "fine" with your child being gay, then you're not "fine" with the LGBT community, so go educate yourself, please.

Dress = fine.
Trick or treating = not.
Homophobia = cannot be excused by either age (and it's assuming a lot about certain age groups) nor upbringing.

Did your husband dress as a witch when he was a child? Did it turn him into the gay? If so then I kind of see where he's coming from.

He's still being unreasonable though.

I'm educated enough, thank you. Maybe overeducated in topics that is unfashionable to speak about.
You can call me all names under the sun, but i'll be bitterly honest to admit that certain aspects of LGBT culture do make me feel uncomfortable.

Which aspects are they Nataleejah ?

Like persecution of people who may have a different opinion or, goodness forbid, religious views.

I'm sorry, you feel you're being persecuted because of who someone chooses to love?

How have you been persecuted?

That isn't the whole of the community though.

There are straight people who do terrible things, doesn't mean I don't want my child to be straight because of them.

So Nataleejah sympathises with OP's husband as she too is a homophobe. Fair enough.

Some straight people persecute people for their religious belief (and sometimes their sexual orientation too).