To buy DH a saucepan for Christmas? (warning - Christmas related)

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We are operating on a tight household budget currently and whereas in the past I'd have just bought a new saucepan when required (old non stick surface peeling) I thought 'ooh I can ask for one for Christmas'. However on reflection there are a few other similar scenarios, including a new kettle, that sort of thing.

Given that DH will eat from the saucepan also - AIBU to get him half the items for Christmas if I'm asking for the other half myself??! I can see me unwrapping a new saucepan on Xmas day while he gets games for his Xbox.

this is like that time when I was 15 and I got a wheelbarrow for mucking out our shared pony while my sister got makeup and clothes

Better to talk about budget with him first, shall we get esch other very cheap presents or get some shared stuff for the house.

I think YANBU provided you discuss it first. I can see us being in a similar position so we will talk about it beforehand.

"warning - Christmas related"

Then stick it in the fucking Christmas topic then.

Quickly before Maryz gets here!

Talk to him. Hows this for a radical idea..if no money no presents to each other or a token one (cd you want or something up to £5 ) and you buy together the saucepans you need. My parents do that for years when money was tight. They never given gifts to each other till recently as they needed x, y and z for the house.

Yanbu by the way. Just months too early.

I think not buying presents and just buying house stuff is a better idea.

considering the title, the warning seems unnecessary

Yabu. Just buy smaller presents and just buy the household stuff you need together.

We are having a new kitchen in January so we aren't buy christmas present for eachother.

I am wincing at the wheelbarrow story. That would definitely be annoying me decades later.

He doesn't get games for his XBox - he gets a bar of his favourite chocolate or similar. You don't get Saucepan - you get some nice smellies (Baylis and Harding are luxurious feeling but reasonable price).
You both buy Saucepan between now and Christmas and cook your dinner in it!

Christmas is three months away, damaged nonstick coatings are potentially carcinogenic. Replace the pan and agree a budget for gifts.

My husband once gave me a carving knife for Christmas (I'd bought him an iPod...). I was genuinely lost for words. Especially when he then insisted on using it to carve the turkey, as our old carving knife was apparently not sharp enough

So if it were me, I'd very happily buy him a saucepan that I wanted in revenge.

But in your case, maybe not so much. I'd go with buying the new saucepan now and then agreeing a small budget for presents.

I think we need to know more about the wheelbarrow story. Ouch.

Thanks - I will go saucepan shopping now!

who wouldn't want a wheelbarrow for Christmas?!

Wheelbarrow? you were lucky.. I once got Mudflaps for christmas !! (from DF, because I needed some for my car he says..) And well its good for the annual Christmas joke story..

Actually ive been asking for a cart ( you know one of those garden ones) for years from DH.. No luck so far..(and I do really want one) .. but I also want goats and this is probably why he ignores me

I brought DH tea towels one year, because he was always moaning about the lack of them, MIL was very annoyed!!! .. DH knew it was to shut him up!

who wouldn't want a wheelbarrow for Christmas?!

I got a pink one two years ago. It was better than the petrol strimmer I got 5 years before

I bought my DH a Conservatory cleaning kit (as a joke) a couple of yeard ago .. He loved it!! (likes cleaning, my DH and is good at it .. I got a good'un there I think)

When we had fuck all cash we used to buy things we needed as "our presents" and ask for the same from others (we had a good few years of microwaves, strimmers and ladders!). We then had a token amount (£5-£10) which we each spend on each other for something more personal (book, cd etc). All was discussed beforehand.