About birthday presents?

[wanderingwondering]

I have a couple of work friends I have known for a few years and in that time we have always exchanged birthday presents. However this year neither of them bought me a present-friend A wished me happy birthday by text and FB and friend B gave me a card.

I thought, fair enough, we're not doing presents any more which is fine by me.

However A then had a big birthday so a few of us clubbed together to get her something special (also fine-I'm happy to do 'big birthdays')

B's birthday (not a big one) is now coming up and was planning on just getting her a card. However A has now approached me and asked if I want to chip in with others on a present for B.

Hope you are following!

Don't want to cause awkwardness with B by getting her something when she was hoping to phase out presents. Neither do I want to seem petty towards A by saying 'but neither of you got me a present'

Neither do I want to be taken for a fool!

Maybe say something along the lines of, 'oh, when it was my birthday I noticed you and x didn't buy a gift and was quite relieved as it is all a bit expensive, so, no, think it's best if we leave it.'

Or maybe don't be so polite .

yanbu, take Matilda's advice!

Or something like "I thought we were only doing the big birthdays now" and if she questions that you can say something about how she got something for her big birthday but you didn't get anything for your non big birthday.

Seems a bit shitty of them tbh.