To have put him back in pull ups?

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Have posted here for traffic as still have time to reverse it if needed.

Basically my ds is 2.9 and we started potty training at the beginning of summer. Started off nice and relaxed about it and we stayed in quite a lot. Very few accidents inside and he seemed to get it pretty much straight away. We went cold turkey with just pants except for naps and at night.

Out and about was difficult and loads of accidents at first as he was distracted or didn't get to pull his pants down or to the toilet on time. But things started to improve and we took potty. He would tell me he needed it sometimes and I would put him on it.

However, went on holiday in aug which was a disaster and since then very up and down.

It's been a few months now and potty training has become such a negative in the house. It's my fault as I am just finding it so stressful and frustrating. I never thought it would take this long! It's become me constantly nagging him about it and getting really cross with him when he has an accident. He still has 1/2 a day which I know probably isn't that much but I feel this is only because I am still putting him on the toilet every couple of hours or so. If I didn't I feel like there will be many more accidents.

The reason I am getting so annoyed is because I feel it is pure laziness and a determination to only do it when he wants to. He is capable of going on his own and numerous times he goes to wees and poos when I am not even in the room. The incentive for rewards seems to have gone and he will say no to going to the toilet and then have an accident when I am trying to persuade him to go or he will leave it to the very lastinute and wets himself on the way. This is why I am getting so frustrated as I feel he is perfectly capable of doing it and only occasionally has accidents at the childminders.

It's become something so negative and I ve turned into the mum I don't want to be. I also have a 6mo so this adds to the stress.

Anyway, probably wrong and going to confuse him but I've reached the end of my tether and have just put him in nappies.

My little boy is 3.5, up until 2 months ago he was dreadful. Then as if by magic he was totally dry, like a little switch clicked. Boys are lazier but he will do it when he's ready. Good luck.

I don't know how you managed to put up with it for that long. Yes, people have said it will click but I am just At the end of my tether with it. I feel like it has clicked as he can do it perfectly when he wants he just can't be bothered and knows he will get a clean pair of pants if he has an accident.

It's become so negative I think it's become almost a challenge to him as another way to test boundaries as he knows it's winding me up. I just think putting him in nappies will take that away and will mean nicer days together without shouty, Naggy mum.

Don't feel bad putting him back in pull ups. He is still only young. Take the stress out of it.try another time.yanbu. the more stressful you make it, the harder it will be. With pull ups on he can do it in his own tine without pressure.

Watching with interest as I could have written your post! Started off well, thought we had cracked it then major relapse. He says 'don't tell me mummy! I want to do it BY MY SELF!' The only trouble is he has more misses than hits at the moment and seems completely unbothered by this. Have tried really hard to keep my temper but I am sure he can tell my frustration at times. to you and hoping someone wiser comes along soon with a solution!

Bungle - boys aren't lazier, people just use that as a reason many times! They are equally as able as a girl.

Op - i would just stop and start again in say 6 weeks once you have all relaxed about it a little

I was you! Started off well, by month 3 there were increasing accidents. I was getting frustrated and cross despite my best efforts and he was getting stressed. In the end we went back to nappies - I just explained it that I didn't want to upset him and why don't we wait a while longer. He was happy to go back to them. Tried again a months later, with a new and refresh attitude on my part and he cracked it within a week or so. So YANBU do it and save you both the stress until you're both ready to try again!

Thanks everyone. It's really Been spoiling my maternity leave. Chatted with my husband and he reckons it might be attention seeking which I agree with and because he it's almost become a battle. We agreed I would just try not reminding him at all for the rest of the week and if he has an accident not say anything to him at all just change him so it's taking the attention seeking away and the negative reaction. Agreed to try it and then if it doesn't work back to nappies. Have tried it before and led to numerous accidents but we will see.

Same here, the pull ups went back on and I forgot about it for a few weeks but then she suddenly just started doing it herself. I was beyond worked up about it before, I'm convinced it was me making such an issue of it that made it worse. Bedtime however is another long winded story but in short history repeated itself. In simple terms don't beat yourself up about it. It will come when he's ready X

I have a 2.10 year old who needs to be dry for nursery in mere weeks so I am in full on panic mode as he isn't ready. He cries to have his nappy back on, loathes his potty and is scared of the toilet. Despite all my attempts to make it positive not to mention the money spent on paraphernalia toilet training has become a battle and something we both find incredibly upsetting.

Having a horrible time with it all and cannot wait for it to "click" with DS but he is so far away right now I do think nursery will accept him when he was due to start (next month) and may defer us until January.

Toilet training under such pressure is making it a million times fucking harder.

I agree with taking all the negative attention away and making sure he doesn't see it as a battle.

DS had a few accidents early on in potty training and really hated it. He's generally naked around the house but whenever we go out he insists on wearing a diaper. We let him, didn't mKe a big deal out of any accidents (just changed him and complimented him when he went on the potty) and he quite quickly stopped having them. He's perfectly dry both night and day now, but still wants the extra security. Just going with it has worked great for us, and diapers were in no way a step backwards. I know I've read quite a few times how you shouldn't put them back as they'll get confused, but that certainly hasn't been an issue for us.

Go back to nappies until you are ready to give him the support he needs. I do understand - DD decided she wanted pants at 17m. Did v well to start with, then had a few weeks with 5-6 accidents a day, sometimes seconds after asking if she wanted a wee. Now at 2.4 she's dry most days. I offered to put her back in nappies but she got v distressed about the idea.

Practice saying "never mind, we know you're doing your best to do all your sees in the potty". Star sticker if he manages.

He's still tiny. It may be attention, it may be a bit of regression with the new baby. It may simply be that he's tiny and can't properly assess when his bladder is full, or he becomes entranced in something more interesting.

YANBU to take a step back for a while. YABVU to get angry and nag a little boy about this. It's not his fault.

I could have written your post. In exactly the same boat here. We too have just got back from holiday and since our return he's totally regressed. It is doing my head in. Feel like I can't take him anywhere. I also think it is made worsev when I keep asking him so going to try and let him get on with it. He will hold on for hours until he's running round like a loon. I feel like I can't go back to nappies but hope there is some improvement soon or I'll lose the plot. He shat on the carpet yesterday after lots of false starts so I did let him know I wasn't very happy. Don't think it hurts for them to know they're in the wrong when you know they can do it. I always make sure I praise when he does do it and try to be positive but its so bloody frustrating sometimes, feels like it has taken over our lives at the moment.