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To be concerned about my daughter's apparent disinterest in crawling?!

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thebartenderandthethief · 22/09/2015 16:09

My daughter is eight months old. She is my first baby, and she is wonderful. She is happy, bright and sociable. She loves singing and eating and she loves her toys.

We go to various baby groups which she really enjoys. She is also in nursery two mornings a week. However, I can help but notice that she is the only baby (literally the only one!) who is not moving around yet. The other babies are all around the same age as her (some are even younger) and are at least bum shuffling or commando crawling along the floor. Not my daughter. She's happy to just sit in the one place, playing with toys and watching the others.

I wouldn't be so concerned if she was trying to crawl but not quite managing it yet. My concern is that she doesn't seem remotely interested in it! If I put her on her tummy she will push up with her arms and kind of half heartedly kick her legs, but she will never voluntarily roll over to her front in an attempt to move (she can roll - I've seen her do it a couple of times - it seems she just chooses not to). My friends baby is two weeks younger and every time you put him down, he's flipping onto his tummy and fighting to crawl.

I do understand that babies do things at different times and I am trying very hard not to compare too much. But I'm not exaggerating when I say she is the only baby in all these groups who is not able to move around yet. My husband thinks I'm worrying about nothing and that she'll crawl or walk when she's good and ready. He says I've maybe just been "unlucky" that my experience is that babies of her age we have come across are moving around - that it doesn't mean they all can, and that she is falling behind. I just feel like these other babies are changing all the time but she seems to have plateaued a little bit.

Any thoughts?? Please be gentle. I'm an anxious mother, I know that really. I just want to help her if I can!

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Clayhead · 22/09/2015 16:38

Neither of mine ever crawled.

DS didn't bother walking until he was two and I suffered lots of 'well meaning' comments... Hmm

He's now 13 and part of the county cross country team Wink Smile

lornathewizzard · 22/09/2015 16:41

Presuming that you're not tying her up so she can't move, you're not holding her back.

DD didn't crawl or show any interest til 9.5months, then she was pulling up straight away and cruising and was starting to walk by 11.5 months. So by rough guidelines, a late crawler, but an early walker. At nearly 14months now she is pretty confident on her feet.

It's easy to spot these differences between yours and other babies when you're concerned. I bet there are things that your DD does or says that the other babies don't. Try not to worry.

CMOTDibbler · 22/09/2015 16:41

My ds didn't crawl till the week before he was 1. He was walking on his own a few weeks later and hasn't stopped moving since. Don't stress about it.

HeyManIJustWantSomeMuesli · 22/09/2015 16:43

My DS never crawled or looked remotely like he wanted to, he didn't bum shuffle (or try to) either but went straight to walking at nine months.

lilacclery · 22/09/2015 16:50

DD walked at 12months and then got down and did a bit of crawling for a couple of weeks until she was 13months when she walked again.

At preschool her teacher noticed some co-ordination issues which are linked to her not crawling eg she was never able to complete the full circle to cycle a tricycle and only after a lot of effort mastered a bike. They refer to it as not learning to cross over from left to right in the mind as crawling is the first time you learn to do this. Another boy was a bit worse and he got physio for it, we took up swimming and she learned to cycle and it doesn't seem to be holding her back really.

thebartenderandthethief · 22/09/2015 16:50

Thank you all. This place is really great sometimes.

I'm so tired of people (namely, my SIL) saying to me "girls are so much faster than boys at crawling and walking" and then looking surprised when I say "she's still not crawling..." DD's cousin (a boy) is a couple of months older than her and streets ahead in terms of movement. My SIL and her smug as fuck comments drive me batshit!

I need to be zen-like and unflappable....

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IndridCold · 22/09/2015 16:52

if she is alert and happy to watch others around her I wouldn't worry too much.

DS never really crawled, he used to roll, and then later he used to drag himself around. He also walked late, at about 16 months.

MyFavouriteClintonisGeorge · 22/09/2015 16:54

Oh yes, the smug remarks. I don't miss those. The last mother who did this about my first's rather slow walking development then had to jump in when PFB started trying to strangle her child.

I was so tempted to say "Oh yes, PFB can't walk for shit but the combat skills are on point!"

Girlfriend36 · 22/09/2015 16:55

My dd didn't crawl, wasn't remotely interested in it at all despite my efforts to encourage her!!

Then when she was 10 and a bit months she gave it a go but decided walking was more her thing and was walking unaided by 11 months Shock

antimatter · 22/09/2015 16:55

My dd never crawled. Then at 6.5 mo ths started cruising.

ExitPursuedByABear · 22/09/2015 16:58

DD never crawled. She was walking at 10 months. She started off by pulling herelf up and cruising the furniture.

StarlingMurmuration · 22/09/2015 16:58

How is she at babbling? My DS started crawling at 6 months but still barely babbles at 10 months - I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me a bit, but the HV says he's just concentration moving around, and babies work at the things at interest them.

StarlingMurmuration · 22/09/2015 16:59

*just concentrating on

feebeecat · 22/09/2015 17:00

Apparently I never crawled, but learnt to talk fairly early. Mum tells me I just sat there issuing demands Hmm Have to say I'd still like to do that, but rarely get away with it.

Walked fine - just in my own time. Dd didn't walk until 18 months - there were 'comments' from people, just told them to think about all the money I was saving on teeny shoes - that usually shut them up.

mumofsammy · 22/09/2015 17:01

Don't worry, my eldest DS didn't crawl until he was 13 months old! He then walked bang on average time at 14 months. He is now five and very proud to tell me that he is the joint fastest runner in his class (uses flat hands like Usain Bolt). So, when they start to crawl means nothing.

StarlingMurmuration · 22/09/2015 17:02

And in our NCT group, he was the fist crawler, swiftly followed by one of the girls - the other two boys can crawl now but aren't as fast or as good at climbing or pulling up, and the two other girls aren't crawling at all - their mothers walk them around everywhere holding their hands instead. And they're all around ten months.

Crawling isn't a milestone anyway - I know it's worrying when it seems like your baby isn't doing at everyone else's is, but try not to get too hung up about it. My DS couldn't sit unsupported til 7.5 months even though he was crawling! They're all different.

thebartenderandthethief · 22/09/2015 17:03

starling she babbles a lot. She "sings" ("la la la") and she says "dadada" (why is it always dada first?! Haha)

myfavourite that made me lol. My DD clunked a kid on the head the other day when he (smugly) crawled over and stole her bells. I was secretly very proud...

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rollmeover · 22/09/2015 17:04

Honestly dont worry about it. My niece didnit crawl till 12 months and walked at 17months. All totally normal. Its not like your DD is going to put it on her Oxford application form is it?

The main problem here is unhelpful comments. (And your SIL) some people see parenting as a competition or a verification of their own self worth. Just ignore, or better laugh it off and make her sound ridiculous.

EponasWildDaughter · 22/09/2015 17:05

DD4 (now 20 months) didn't bother with rolling over or crawling - she went straight from just sitting to cruising (side stepping round the room holding on to furniture). This was at 10 months. Then walked at 11 months.

Until she began her cruising we were getting frantic a bit concerned.

Don't fret OP. They're all different.

HeadDreamer · 22/09/2015 17:06

It's only 8 months. Both of mine crawled at 9 months. Don't worry yet.

StarlingMurmuration · 22/09/2015 17:18

And DS has been cruising since seven months - we were sure he'd be walking within a couple of mind but he's still just cruising, climbing and very occasionally standing on his own, yet other babies move very quickly from cruising to walking! Sounds like she's an early "talker" not an early "walker" (mover/crawler) - my gran always said it's one or the other!

fuctifino · 22/09/2015 17:25

My dd was a complete sloth, just sat there. She'd happily sit in a bouncy chair watching life pass her by.
She went straight to her feet, missed the crawling out completely.

Dd2 was a complete shocker insomuchas she wanted entertaining Shock and was doing a half crawl, half walk thing a lot younger than I expected. Dd1 had spoiled me completely.

Give her time, she'll be into everything before you know it.

velocitykate · 22/09/2015 17:31

DD1 crawled at 11 months and walked at 19 months. DS crawled at 13 months and walked at 19 months. They are both fine - DD has just started secondary school, plays tennis and does athletics and ballet.

I was just as worried as you are at the time - a bit less so with DS and by the time DD2 came along, I hardly noticed what she was up to. Good luck.

Littlef00t · 22/09/2015 17:35

You get Walkers and Talkers in my experience. Your dd sounds like the latter and that's great.

She's happy looking at the world and in time she'll be happy to explore it too.

Lindorballs · 22/09/2015 17:41

My DD (now nearly 2) was exactly like this. Sat on her own fairly early (5 months) and then just sat (for months). Not interested in crawling at all or moving full stop. By about 11 months I was getting quite worried - first time mum. I "trained" her to commando crawl by laying a trail of chocolate buttons for her.
I don't actually think you can "make" them do something before they are ready but she loved it and it did motivate her to get moving. But I couldn't get her to crawl properly until she was ready at 13 months. She just suddenly got onto her hands and knees one day and did it! She was the same with walking.
Total refusenik then suddenly at 18 months walked across the room like she had always known how to do it. I do remember being very concerned about how late she seemed to be compared to all the other babies in her group but 8 months is still very young. Most babies I know were really only just getting going with moving at that age. If she is still showing no interest in moving by her 1st birthday maybe speak to your health visitor at the one year check.