To be fed up of sponsorship requests?

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Just that really. I'm getting a bit fed up of being regularly asked to donate to this, that and the other charity (usually one of the huge corporate ones) for people to run, go on holiday, abseil, whatever. Is it just me or has it boomed in recent years?

I find it particularly galling when the fundraiser and the charity have no links - I'm not such a curmudgeon that when someone is raising money for a charity close to their hearts I'll complain - but it allows them to do something like climbing Kilimanjaro on the cheap.

I will quite happily give to charity, and will also happily fund my own leisure activities rather than taxing my friends for me to do whatever it is I have decided to partake in.

AIBU to scream if I get another request?

I get so many requests for this...

a friend who has been very ill and has fought her way back to health has just done a triathlon to raise money for the charity that helped her - I donated.

I do ignore the ones where people are just getting a free experience of a lifetime though.... Maybe I'm an ogre ?

I just begged on FB. I hate it too, so I don't ask people directly (hence FB) and I worded it appropriately. I'm also doing something hard (for me) and not getting a holiday paid for. I agree, it's annoying.

Unless you are being asked to give beyond what you can afford, YAB a bit U about the requests. I do take your point about some of these things being leisure activities rather than charitable endeavours, but many aren't.

I did a sponsored walk this weekend- it was only 1.7 miles, which doesn't sound like a lot does it? But I was doing it with my friend who has MS, to raise money for research, and because of her disorder she had to walk the whole thing BACKWARDS! So it was actually a lot further than it sounds!! We raised quite a bit of cash doing it - but the thing is, it wasn't just about the money to a good cause. Every single donation really boosted my friend, who is coping so bravely with a really, really horrible diagnosis. She recently also lost a baby, so she has been feeling very low, and it was soooo fantastic to see her smiling and feeling loved by friends and family who were supporting her and donating. Don't underestimate how uplifting it can be for someone who is low to receive your donation.

Also, I think most of us are a bit unreasonable in the way that we use cash, definitely including myself in that. I read this earlier, and I fall so short of what this woman and her friends are doing that it made me feel quite ashamed of myself. While I don't think I am selfless enough ever to achieve what she has, I really should try harder:

www.theguardian.com/world/2015/sep/22/extreme-altruism-should-you-care-for-strangers-as-much-as-family

Yanbu, I just ignore it All.

I think social media makes it seem worse. Its not unreasonable of them to ask, its not unreasonable of you not to donate.

It terms of social media requests, i have a friend who is on there who you never ever hear hide nor hair of until she's running some marathon or climbing some mountain and she wants sponsorship. She gives absolutely nothing in terms of social media - you never get a photo or an update or a like - just a request.

But people can use social media however they want I guess so I've no real right to moan.

Door ones from strangers get me. Ask to be sponsored never to be seen again never knowing if they did it or not.

I'll sponsor my friends on Facebook and other social media almost every week. It's always for a good cause and I'm happy to do it, personally.

The joy of not being on Facebook is that you don't get many requests .

I will donate if it is a cause close to my heart but if it is one of those 'holiday/experience' type ones I want to be sure that the person is paying their own expenses.

I don't mind people asking. I mind when it moves from asking to constant pestering.