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AIBU?

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To think the next generation will grow up timid

35 replies

Phonebox · 19/09/2015 20:28

Never before have we had such a disappointing reception to our series of lectures as we have experienced over the last year.

I work for a charity which involves a lot of speaking to and recruitment of young people to spread knowledge of our cause and inspire fundraising efforts across the country.

Usually we get good responses to our talks and lots of ideas and energy from young people keen to make a difference.

However recently we've had such a poor reception...we've left schools and clubs after warmly encouraging questions at the end and receiving none, trying in vain to generate discussion groups and being met with nervous giggling and a lot of embarrassment, and me and my colleagues are faced with trying to find out if we've suddenly all turned into teenage repellents or if there is something else going on Confused

I talked to my teacher friends at a focus group recently, and they're a cynical bunch anyway, but they hypothesised the growth of social media meant that more teenagers are acting like sheep and refusing to speak out or offer controversial opinions (or even potentially risk looking ignorant by asking questions) because their behaviour is now so closely recorded and monitored by technology.

That's a rather extreme theory. However many of us at work were teenagers in the 70s and 80s and used to a bit more public revolutionary attitude than the meekness we've faced recently.

So AIBU? Any heartening stories of bold teenagers to cheer me up?

OP posts:
TenForward82 · 19/09/2015 21:55

Are you practicing death by PowerPoint?

LilacSpunkMonkey · 19/09/2015 22:01

I didn't say they go to a music school. They have to do music for the first two years and many of them are not musical students so actually it's well out of their comfort zone.

lljkk · 19/09/2015 22:05

NewsFlash: Teens are Insecure. Gee wow, I never knew...

WorraLiberty · 19/09/2015 22:10

I have a nearly 13yr old, a 16yr old and a 23yr old and I really don't recognise this.

If anything, I think they're all way more vocal in a school environment than ever before because debate is definitely more encouraged as part of a lesson, than it ever was when I was at school.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 19/09/2015 22:10

Oh, I worded it badly! Sorry.

I meant, at DD's school, for music they have to perform.

Not a school for music.

Saltedcaramel4 · 20/09/2015 01:38

How big are the groups you present to and do you use a variety of teaching methods? If someone was to talk at me a lot or quiz me as I was sat in an audience, I'd be pretty rubbish. My learning style is more visual and I feel most comfortable speaking up In small groups.

Saltedcaramel4 · 20/09/2015 01:40

I would probably revise the presentation. OP run through what you normally do

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/09/2015 05:22

I run training about housing and I find youth are just the same spread as everyone else Shock Some groups are baskets of puppies; can't shut them up. Some are tumbleweed; my words wandering off into perpetual darkness and cold.

Fact is a decent public speaker/facilitator works with the group they have and blames themselves not the group for issues.

Things I suggest; getting a few early arrivers onside, chat to them, warm them up, they are your allies; if they are flagging, get them up and moving; use different methods for eliciting response (hands on heads for yes or clap for no); humour all the time and lots of it.

Fratelli · 20/09/2015 06:48

I don't think they're timid. I think that joining in isn't "cool" so they don't.

JemimaMuddledUp · 20/09/2015 07:09

I'm not sure that timid is the right word, although I definitely think that teenagers seem more keen to conform than they were when I was one. That might just be because I am getting old though, maybe my generation looked like that to my parents.

In terms of volunteering etc I don't see a lot of difference though between teens now and teens 25 years ago. Here in Wales we do the Welsh Bac in the 6th form, which has a commitment to volunteering. This has made it the norm, and an awful lot of younger teens that I know are involved in volunteering too, probably influenced by the fact that the older ones do it.

My 13yo often spends Saturday afternoons litter picking the beach with a Marine Conservation group. At least half of the people who turn up to do this regularly are teenagers. Teenagers who aren't afraid to be tagged in pictures on FB looking windswept with black sacks picking up other people's mess. I wouldn't call that timid.

Maybe the methods you are using just aren't engaging your target audience?

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