Five years ago our family moved. I have remained good friends with a woman I'll call Denise. I haven't found anyone I relate to here like I do with Denise, I believe it is same for her.
Before we moved, Denise and I knew of a woman through the children's school, I'll call Alma. I'm far from a perfect parent, but Alma would arrange playdates for her three children at once, 3 boys, aged 3, 7 and 9 and my ds, then right before the playdate tell me that the child minder would be coming at so and so time and she would be leaving. If I had known about this before it would be bad enough but she did this at the last minute. She had a similar way of disciplining her children - she didn't. Needless to say they had behavioural issues and had trouble finding schools to accept them. Shortly after the playdate incident they moved to another country and we never heard from them again.
This week Denise called me and said that Alma (and her children) are back from the other country and now going to the same school. She asked me if I remembered Alma, and of course I told her that I did, albeit not very fondly. Denise knew exactly what went down with Alma as she has a memory like an elephant, that's why I naturally said the 'not very fondly' bit.
However, Denise, I think, is looking for new friends (which is great!) and when I said the 'not very fondly' bit Denise acted huffy and I realized that she was telling me Alma was back and she wanted to befriended her. I'm a bit mortified I slagged off Alma to Denise since she's hoping to befriend Alma. I feel like doing some major backpeddeling to Denise but in my head I know I should just ignore it and don't bring up Alma again! Should my heart win out and apologize to Denise, our should I just keep mum and hope Denise simmers down? I know how hard it is to find friends to connect with and if I had any idea Alma would be back and Denise wanted to befriend her I would have stayed out out it and been supportive.