WIBU to turn up looking less than glamourous...

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Going to a friends 40th birthday party tonight .

It will be held at her home and there will be quite a lot of people there .

I think everyone will be looking glam .

The issue is , AF has arrived today , I'm bloated , have painful cramps , so tired and have accompanying back ache and a "loose" digestive system too

I really can't be bothered to glam up - my jeans will be tighter and uncomfortable and I'll just be sitting feeling all rubbish .

I've had some ibuprofen and chocolate to clear the pains but I just feel yuk!

WIBU to wear some loose fitting harem type pants with a vest top and light jacket ?

Or will I look like I've made no effort ?

I don't want to have to explain why I've turned up looking like I'm just popping over for a cuppa

I take it you mean your period has started.

I can remember feeling all those awful things when I was still having periods - too old now - and yes I would never be able to wear tight clothes.

What you want to wear sounds fine.

But can you tell me what AF means please?

Sorry AF is Aunt Flow bit of a twee expression I've heard on 'ere

I think you would stand out tbh. Yes AF happens to a lot of us, but life doesn't stop.
A nice looking, evening top and a decent pair of pants should be fine.
I think harem pants would look half arsed.

Ah. Okay. Bit twee but probably better than 'the blob' that a friend of my daughter used to use. Horrible expression, thankfully they're no longer friends :)

Depends what you mean by 'glam'
My definition of 'glam' wouldn't include jeans, which is what (I think?) you are saying you would have worn otherwise.
If it's 'glam', then, I'd go for a dress.
If it's a more relaxed / jean acceptable sort of vibe, then I can't see a problem with what you are suggesting.

Ultimately though, I'd feel a bit uncomfortable if everyone else were a lot smarter than I was at a 'do'.

Tbh, life doesn't stop just because you're having a period. I don't think the out fit you described sounds like you've just turned up for a cup of tea but equally you would be unreasonable to not make an effort just because of your period. I'd feel quite awkward if everyone else looked the part and I didn't.

@ Aunt Flow did you mean Aunt Flo , flow may be more appropriate though

I think harem trousers with what you've described along with nice wedges or heels and a big shiny statement necklace/earrings/lipstick would look quite chic OP. Sort of the 'on my way to Monaco dahling'sort of vibe.

A statement red lip and a bit of bling makes almost anything dressy looking.

I don't own anything other than leggings (I don't go anywhere glamorous though!!) but agree with makeup and accessories you can add a bit of glam to a more casual outfit.

Like this?

Agree with panda's suggestion

panda that outfit is lovely !

Unfortunately I have a very limited wardrobe and a not so limited figure !

Ah. Okay. Bit twee but probably better than 'the blob' that a friend of my daughter used to use. Horrible expression, thankfully they're no longer friends

I dumped a bloke for calling it that. Tip of the iceberg.

Bloody The 'Flo' is supposed to mean flow. I haven't seen AF since I stopped going on ttc boards.

I mean I haven't seen the expression 'AF' not I haven't seen my period. God I'm too tired to make sense today.

Oooh I'm going to a fortieth party in my friends home tonight too - Britpop by any chance?! If so, I don't think it's going to be super glam tbh. I've got for a mix of nineties retro bottom half (denim mini, black tights, Chelsea boots) and a posher top! Your outfit sounds lovely x

I thought AnyFucker was on her way to the party.

Christ on a pogo stick! The amount of threads I've read today which discuss here you'd think she was taking over the world! GammonAndEgg Why is this?

*her

InTheBox, the OP wrote that AF had arrived and was feeling bloated!

I do think that life goes on, with or without periods, but honestly, this is not a major job interview you are thinking of skipping because of period pain. You feel like crap, go comfy, tell your friend you are feeling under par but that you wouldn't miss her bash for the world. She will understand.

GammonAndEgg AF as in Aunty Flo, her period. I posted upthread telling OP to just get on with it. I never read AF as a poster.

bee I do realise that , but you write Aunt Flo , anyway OP hope you are feeling better

Ah, the Aunt Flo / Any Fucker confusion makes me giggle.

(If she wanted to take over the world, I'd probably be ok with it)