To despair at dsd

[Onedirectionarestillloved]

Ok I expect to get flamed.

Poster about dsd before.

At the time she was 18 and had just had a miscarriage.
It was to a guy she barley knew but they were you know, so in love going to get married have a family and live happily ever after. They have now split up .

She already has a child to someone else and slags the fathers fc repeatedly on face book to the extent that her auntie has U friended her, her dad has told her to stop it ( countless times) her own sister has poster that she must stop doing this on a public forum.

Anyway she has skated the father of her child so bad,y that he has retaliated and posted that she is pregnant again to a completely different nan / boy!

She has been with him around 14 days!!

He has Also said that she has een giving out her phone number Gomez/ teenagers and when a friend of his asked her why, her response was "for a booty call"

In other words phone me if you want a fuck.

The e. Has also named a ma. She has approached who she knows is in a relationship.

I have no doubt that all this is true.

I am horrified and feel like shouting " what in the name of God are you doing?"

She works pt in a bar- it's latenight and mainly younger people. And that she doesn't get along with any of the other women at all, none of them.ike her.

She has admitted that she flirts with all the men and I am worried about this.

She has also said that she gets called a slut but that it doesn't bother her.

She doesn't live with us and I don't feel it is my place to speak to her the way I woyl my own dd.

If she weed my own dc I would be telling her like it is.

When I speak to Dp about her , her gets a bit defensive then says if he says too much or expresses disapproval towards get she will retaliate and tKe her son away from us.
This is true she has done it GeForce. She has a,so done this with the baby's father.

We all have to tie the line or else she withdraws contact.

Dontt know what I'm asking really .

I cNtspeak to anyone in rl as quite frankly what the hell can they say .

I feel like slapping her to be honest.

I know she needs support but she does t listen.

Seems as though everything we say ( or anyone else for that matter ) is disregarded.

Oh and I knew straight away that I was pregnant the first time I had to wait a to see the doctor to confirm it and that was with my first pregnancy which took a long time to happen.

So did I one direction, I knew very early but I do think that that means on day 1 she met him and ovulated that day, to already find out she was pregnant to a man she'd only known 14 days. Seems like an exaggeration on the person facebookings part.

Let your DH lead it an if he loses patience then he loses patience.Just be there to support him.

Ok so maybe I am being prudent with the 14 day timing. The only other answer is that dhe miscarried and then had sex straight away with the last guy.
So she would have had to be seeing the last guy whilst still with the second guy.
Didn't want to say it but the second guy did end things with her after accusing her of being a cheat ) he put it another way).

do think that that means on day 1 she met him and ovulated that day, to already find out she was pregnant to a man she'd only known 14 days.
...and not only that, her first action was to confide in her ex!

I agree with the PP that it sounds like she has appalling self esteem.

But you can't stop someone from fucking their own life up. Only be there to pick up the pieces when it goes tits up.

I think the only thing you can do is be there for her. She does sound very unhappy and craving love and affection.

Well we saw dsd yesterday. She wanted a lift to work because she couldn't catch the bus as she had to wait for her mum to get home to babysit.

The baby's dad should have had the baby but because he has posted on face book she stormed around and brought the baby back.

So we had to alter our plans to take her and of course her mum couldn't then go out.

I've said if she carries on like this she will alienate her ex and damage the relationship between him and his son.

Dp was a bit defensive of her again, claiming that her ex was at fault.

I've not made any other comments and am staying out of it.

Why was him posting on FB such a problem? Did he say something nasty about her?

I feel for you OP, it's all very well saying detatch but it is hard when she's obviously going to be in your life anyway, and there is a kid involved.

I'd take any opportunity you can to try to talk to her and positively influence her, but it is a minefield not to be seen as interfering or just slagging her off.

Hopefully she will grow out of this phase before too much damage is done.

I think its a case of putting most things on fb rather than thinking first.
I have posted before about what she puts on there and no matter how much advice she gets telling her not to she continues.
It's all very well people saying block her/ don't read it but her ex does read it and they argue on there .

It's all very childish.

Yes it is difficult. Like I said if she was my dd I would be very direct with her, but she isn't and she doesn't take kindly to her dad's advice.

You can't control what she puts on there even if she acts like a complete prat at times. All you can do is defriend or unfollow her and make it so ignorance is bliss.